Craving deep connections and struggling with loneliness

[Alejandra78]

Hi community, 

I'm here because I am feeling like I'm not getting what I need in my close relationships, and the loneliness I'm experiencing is having a profound effect on my well-being. 

It's triggering depression and anxiety and I'm overeating and feeling lethargic and unmotivated as a result. 

What I want more than anything is to be seen, heard and appreciated for being me. I particularly want to be seen and celebrated for being a woman - for the beauty that I bring to the world in just being me. 

I often feel like a commodity that is criticised if I'm not who others want me and that my value is being measured on a tally of 'assets and liabilities' 

I'm starting to feel like no matter what I do I'm not really seen. 

I NEED to meet like minded people that share my love of deep and meaningful conversation.  

Not really sure where to start or how to seek support in this.  

So I thought sharing myself here might be a good first step...

[smallwolf]

Hello and welcome.

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, but admire your courage in sharing your thoughts and experiences... feeling unseen and unheard can be incredibly isolating, and it's painful when we don’t feel appreciated for who we truly are.

Your need for deep, meaningful connection IS valid, and it's understandable that these unmet needs are impacting your mental health. (There was a time I was working from home and that eventually took away any relationships I had.) It's clear that you're longing for relationships where you can be truly seen and valued, not just for what you can offer others, but for your authentic self.

It's so important to find spaces where you can connect with like-minded individuals who share your values and interests. what sort of things interest you?

While it might feel overwhelming to figure out where to start, I believe that just acknowledging your need for this connection is a powerful first step.

If you ever feel like talking more or need support in finding those meaningful connections, I’m here to listen ...