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Abandonment

PippiJanet
Community Member
I am struggling to adapt to being abandoned by my family. I ended an abusive relationship and now I am entirely alone. It is an extremely difficult adjustment.
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geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello PippiJanet, and a warm welcome.

The situation you're in, certainly isn't ideal and hope we can make you feel comfortable knowing that some of us have been through similar circumstances, not taking anything away from what you've said, as it's your thread.

To be abandoned is a feeling of being disconnected, rejected, and by yourself with no one to talk to, we're so sorry that this has happened but offer our support, because in an abusive relationship is a no win situation.

We hope you can get back to us so we can help you.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

Doolhof
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi PippiJanet,

Sorry to read your statement. Like Geoff mentioned, hope we can be of some support to you.

Are you somewhere safe? If you felt concerned for your safety at all would you call the police?

Is there one member of your family you can reach out to? Does your family understand the circumstances you were living under?

You may find it helpful to telephone the support workers at Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 or Life Line for some extra support.

Do you have any friends you can contact?

Leaving an abusive relationship can be difficult. Starting over again can be daunting. I hope you are able to find some inner strength and tenacity to make this work for you.

Not having the support of your family is tough. Reach out where you can for help.

Regards from Dools

josh1245
Community Member

hey pippijanet I would like to send you a warm welcome and would also like to praise you for your incredible strength and courage in asking for help its something that you should be so proud of. firstly I would like to say that I'm really sorry that you are currently going through this horrible time but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I would like to also say that I applaud you for removing yourself from an negative environment I have had similar experiences and it can seem when it is fresh that maybe you did the wrong thing but you didn't you did the best thing for yourself. you deserve to be treated with respect and be with a person that is supportive of you.

I hope everything gets better soon

regards josh

Guest_1643
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi PippiJanet

Welcome to the forums

So sorry to hear you are struggling
It's such an amazing quality to be honest and open about your feelings - and i've observed that people who are able to be vulnerable get help quicker. I'm proud of you for reaching out.
Since ending the r/ship, I can understand how you'd feel even tempted to return, since you don't have other support. It does get lonely at times.

Have you read any books about people who have left abusive relationships? They helped me stay away from abusers when I was tempted to return. Stay safe and please feel free to write anything that comes to your heart- we will not judge you and many of us have been there

Spd
Community Member
I know how you feel about family abandoning you.mine did that to me long ago,but l can tell you life goes on and so will you.its there loss.