20yr bored lonely frustrated virgin

[EmonX]

Hello I'm bored and lonely and the future scares me.

I am diagnosed with mild Autism and am currently isolated in a small town.

I've always been shy and awkward which has made it hard for me to connect with other people.

I used to have a tight group of friends in Primary School but we somehow drifted apart the first year of High School, I haven't really had a real friend since grade 9.

Somewhere along the line, I became a more reclusive person and stopped communicating as much as I used to. I tried hanging out with other groups but for whatever reason, We wouldn't end up friends.

I used to be a class clown which would give me attention but that's all they would want from me.

Looking back now, I get depressed and angry with myself, they say that HighSchool is normally a time full of memories but to me it's just a blur.

I'm bored and lonely w

[PamelaR]

Hi EmonX and welcome to our community forums

It's awesome you've found your way here! Well done. You'll find lots of support here.Is it okay if I ask some questions - I'm doing this so we can maybe answer your queries better.

• Have you always lived in a small town? Is it close to a bigger city?
• Are you working at all?

The title of your thread sounds like this is the depth of your concern and query. I understand why you're so worried though. Schooling and your growing up doesn't prepare you for the world of adulthood.

You're not alone EmonX, there are a couple in our community who are similar to yourself.

Feel free to search our forums using the search tool at the top of our webpage and join in discussions that are relevant to your topic.

I do understand that living in a small town has it's disadvantages. You say that there are sports in your town and not much else. What are your interests? E.g. the environment, cooking, writing, games (computer), online dating? There are ways of connecting with people, from my thoughts it's working out what you want to do, then looking at ways to make it happen.

Hope some of this helps EmonX. Look forward to hearing from you again.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[EmonX]

Thank you.

The nearest biggish city is a 2 hour drive away.

I'm living with my grandma at the moment while my Dad is out in a different state in a big city working, hoping to get a appartment there.

If it doesn't work out for him there, I have no idea how I'm going to survive.

I've tried Tinder but have had no success. Not alot of girls seem to use it in my area, It's only just upset me seeing profiles of beautiful girls my age with sexual bios that I can't get with. I am doubtful anyone would use anything other than Tinder in my area.

It seems like most people in my area don't hang out outside their homes much unless they're traveling. Most people are hanging out with the same people they went to school with, their whole life in this area. So I'm probably pretty much lost socially here.

I'm not working at the moment but I want to. My grandma saids I should wait after I take my meds for awhile for my acne that has the possibility of making me aggrevated. Just in case I don't go off on the bosses.

There is a meet up for people with disabilities once a month I could go to and a chess club and that's pretty much it. I don't even know how to play chess but I guess I'll have to learn. I am doubtful these activities would lead to me meeting beautiful girls which I deeply want more so than just friendship.

[PamelaR]

Hi EmonX

Thank you for getting back to us.

Hopefully your father is able to find suitable accommodation in the bigger city. 2hrs away from a big city isn't too far. Perhaps you could make a day trip every now and then?

Meeting people at the best of time is hard work for many people, wanting to meet 'beautiful people' is possibly harder. It also depends on what you mean by beautiful. From my perspective beauty comes from within, not what someone looks like. Just thought I'd share that.

Anyway, have you searched the Autism Spectrum Australia for any usual links to help you? For instances have you had a look at the Launchpad? http://www.autismlaunchpad.org.au/health/sexual-health/. Not sure if this will help at all.

Hope your medication kicks in soon so you can start looking for work. What type of work do you think would suit you?

What are your interests (other than wanting to meet beautiful people)?

Kind regards

PamelaR

[EmonX]

Thank you.

My interest are B Movies,Pro Wrestling, Criminal Psychology, Donald Trump, Charlie Sheen, Tommy Wiseau, Stand up Comedy, Music and Browsing the weird side of the Internet.

Favourite TV shows are Breaking Bad, South Park, Malcolm in the Middle and Family Guy.

Favourite Movies are Scarface, American Psycho, American Beauty, Napoleon Dynamite, The Room and anything from Quentin Tarantino or starring Rob Schneider.

Favourite bands are: Slayer, Smashing Pumpkins, Linkin Park, Slipknot and Korn.

Favourite rappers are: Eminem and Kanye West.

[EmonX]

I would like something simple and routine such as stacking shelves as my ideal job.

Dream job would probably be running the Playboy Mansion.