Where to go from there?

[Guest_16459694]

Hello,

My husband left me nearly 3 years ago, we still haven't managed to divorce or find an agreement with a settlement. I have been sent to a domestic violence organisation and a psychologist by my GP. I am just starting to heal. I am concern about our children; they are now young adults, and I want to make sure they don't follow the same pattern (either being a narcissist abuser or a victime). I also want to close this chapter of my life, but I feel my ex-husband will only be satisfied when I died. I have no family in Australia except my children. There is no escape for me.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome 

It seems quite common that spouses or separated spouses dont believe they have basic rights to a safe and problem free future.

Just because you share children in no other way are you bound to him.

You can finalise this situation by seeking a family law solicitor, seek divorce and property settlement all through that solicitor with no contact with your spouse. If he continually contacts you, you can seek an order from a court to keep him no contact. Attend a magistrate court for an application.

With your fear of your children, you can only control what you can control beyond that it becomes "worry" and worry is none productive. If you become aware of your child acting in a narcissistic manner you can try to CURB their behaviour a motherly thing to do.

All the best

TonyWK