Spouse with OCD. Recommended therapies

Gale_Saunders
Community Member

Hi All,

 

My wife has OCD.  We suspect it was caused by traumatic events she experienced when she was a child (single child experienced bullying at school, parents that threatened voilence on each other and threatened suicide due to infidelity, being blamed for parents close to breaking, being mansplained by her Dad all her life to the point she relies on her Dad to confirm her decision making (she has a very close relationship with her parents today despite whats happened during her childhood).

 

I love my wife dearly and she was fortunate enough to get treatment like TMS and also meds to moderate her symptons.

 

But recently it has escalated again and I was hoping to get any suggested therapy treatments that others have tried to help with OCD.  I read metacognitive therapy might be helpful.

 

Its been very challenging on myself and my teenage daughter.  Its like walking on eggshells sometimes at home.

 

I dont blame her for the state she is in.  She was a victim of bad circumstances and suffering ever since.  It despairs me when I see her questioning her own judgement on simple decisions she needs to make day to day.

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Summer Rose
Blue Voices Member

Hi Gale

I know how hard it is to support a loved one with OCD, as my daughter also lives with the condition.  Hugs to you and your daughter and congratulations on being a loving support team.

My daughter has tried a range of therapies but what is working now--and has proven to work best--is  Exposure Response Prevention (ERP), which is a specialised form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, in combination with medication.

On two occasions in the past when my daughter has been in a state of escalation, she has sought in-patient treatment.  Both experiences were positive, two-week stays that broke a lot of cycles and put limits on OCD, so that she could better function and engage with treatment.

One of the hospitals  she attended offers a reputable OCD-specific  program, which is worth considering.  I don't know if I can name hospitals on this forum but try Googling "OCD Clinic" and see what you get.

Kind thoughts to you

 

krf2813
Community Member

Hi, as someone with depression, BPD, OCD and PTSD, I can highly recommend the following: 

- Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) - teaches 4 core skill areas: distress tolerance, mindfulness, emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness

- art therapy 

(if you do look into this, make sure you get one who has the proper accreditation with ANZACATA).

 

I started art therapy last May with a lovely lady who does art therapy / psychotherapy. I had been doing just talk therapy for the past 30+ years and while talk therapy helped me articulate how I was feeling, I didn't know what to do with the insights I'd learnt. Things still felt 'stuck' in my body. Art therapy was the only thing that really helped me in clearing out the backlog of bullshit that had been compacted. And, in a more practical sense, art therapy has also helped in my ability to recall past sessions with more clarity. I can remember the picture I drew, remember the colours I chose, the detail, how I felt during it and what I learnt. If I were to remember JUST the thoughts I had, it would have been very foggy and the initial epiphany would most certainly have been lost / irretrievable. 

 

Talk therapy sits solely within the left side of the brain. Art therapy combines both sides - you create something and experience something, and then talking about it with the art therapist afterwards about what you did helps marrying the left and right sides of the brain, so you get bilateral healing. Art therapy is naturally trauma-informed because of this. It helps to bridge the gaps and give you a language to express things that sometimes don't have accurate words. 

 

I admit I was skeptical at first, but in the 11 months that I've been doing art therapy, I've made more progress and 'cleared out' more trauma than the 30+ years of talk therapy ever did.

 

This has just been my lived experience, and you may not find that art therapy resonates with you, but it's just an idea. 🙂 I hope that things get better. ❤️