Hi HopeDream
You obviously have a lot on your plate right now and I'm glad that you reached out. I know what it feels like when you think your family is falling apart and I'm very sorry that you have to experience this.
When my youngest child fell seriously ill with a mental health condition our whole family was under so much stress that I thought we would break--her older brother who was a teen at the time really suffered. What I did was recognise that while my daughter needed professional mental health care to deal with her condition, our family also needed help and I organised family counselling to get us back on track.
Now this is a different situation and you are a child not a parent, but I think the same principle applies. So, one thing you could try is to tell mum or dad how you are feeling and suggest family therapy. Does this resonate with you? How might they respond?
The other thing you can do is to continue to love and support all of your family members because they all must be experiencing high stress levels. It's also critical that you look after your own mental health and wellbeing right now, as you've got a lot to process right now.
Posting and sharing here is a great. You could also consider calling the Kids Help Line on 1800 55 1800 and talking things through with a counsellor. If you're at school or Tafe or university your student services office may also be able to assist you.
From my life experience, I think it might help to accept that you can't control how your parents are reacting to your sister's news nor your sibling's desire to seek gender affirming care and perhaps move out. The difficulties your family are experiencing are not yours to fix alone. I have also found that in families people can say a lot of things when they are angry, scared, frustrated and/or hurt but with love, effort and time wounds can heal and fixed views can change.
Post any time and our community will do its best to support you.
Kind thoughts to you
