PTSD woman loves man with depression. Help!

[Mizlissa]

background - together 4 yrs 3 of them amazing.

He's been suffering for a while but when I suggested help he wouldn't go, I work full time so I've been putting off going to see someone too. I know I need to! My PTSD is making me paranoid and insecure which leads to anger. This anger has led to a huge blowout ending our relationship (though we were engaged and getting married in a few months). It also caused him to finally go to the doctor. It's almost defiantly some sort of depression/anxiety that causes him to blow up over the smallest things run off and lock himself in a caravan for days. 

My question is this, he is blaming me for everything lashing out like mad, texting non stop about how everything is destroyed because of me. I want to help him get through this, I can't leave him like that! I know it sounds stupid but I love him, I have children I know what it means to love someone who poops in your hand. I love him like that, I need help to help him. 

[Pixie15]

Hi Mizlissa,

Welcome to the bb forums. If you have a look through the supporting family and friends forum you will find a lot of members trying to negotiate similar difficulties to this. There is also a publication in the resources which is written for carers with really useful information about caring for your loved one and yourself.

For the sake of your children and yourself and your fiancee it might be a good idea to think about some relationship counseling. Your partner is an adult not a baby. Even with babies we expect them to grow and develop to the point of not pooping in our hand unless there is a disability which prevents this of course. It might be worth considering if you are treating your partner like a depressed man or a frustrated child?

cheers,

Pixie.