Partner with depression

[Nightchaser]

My partner of 14 years has pretty severe depression right now. Having been through it myself I'm doing my best to help. But tonight I feel like its at its worst. He's gotten angry with me for having friends that I talk to when he doesn't (or doesn't think) he has any friends, and it's made me feel like I have to stop talking with my friends to make him happy. All he seems to do all is go to work, have dinner, go to bed, got to work. We don't sleep together anymore because his snoring is horrendous and I have severe insomnia. On the weekends he spends most of it asleep. He's also had a lot of time off work because he's so tired he can't get out of bed or he just feels sick. He goes to the doctor regularly and they keep increasing his meds but nothing seems to be helping. I just don't know what to do anymore.

[geoff]

hello Nightchaser, depression not only affects the person with it but also those living with them, that's the power of this insidious illness.
I'm not sure whether your partner has been going to counselling, because normally to begin with both this and the medication are needed to help somebody get through this awful time.
Friends of those with depression tend to stay away or leave, simply because they don't know what to say or how to handle the situation or even how to approach the topic, that's the unfortunate part to depression.
If you have friends to talk with that's great and you can't just stop talking with them just because he doesn't like it, because if this happens then you could have a relapse and that's not what you or any of us want to happen.
If his work has attributed to his depression then they should be paying for counselling costs plus the medication he has to take.
What what you need to do is look after yourself and try not to be drawn back into this dark spot where the black dog lives, and if he's not getting any counselling then perhaps you could suggest it to him, but once again take care.
Would love to hear back from you. Geoff