Overwhelmed & Falling Asleep

[KFry]

Help please!

looking for some help my husband has anxiety, it started a few years back when he use to throw up his food, he would get anxiety that we were leaving the house and that he won’t be close to a toilet so he would throw up prior to leaving. I have been saying to him for a couple of years that he has anxiety. His finally admitted that he did have eating disorder. Currently on anti-anxiety medication. He gets so overwhelmed with the day that anywhere between 4-6pm he turns into what I call “moods” where basically he looks, sounds and acts drunk. His eyes are glassy, can’t walk straight and slurs his words. He struggles to stay awake and I have to put him to bed each night. Maybe once a week he can stay up until 9pm. Within 1-2 hrs of him being asleep he “wakes” up to go to the toilet. Basically like sleep walking and talking, he can’t manage to make out anything. He yells and screams, if I get angry with him he will try and talk to me, his called me all sorts of names and even pushed me to the ground, has no recalection of anything the next morning. His gone to a psychiatrist a few times but it doesn’t seem to help. I’m over dealing with him basically being a baby or drunk person that I have to deal with every night.

[Croix]

Dear KFry~

Welcome here to the Forum. You sound in a very difficult situation, and looking after your partner the same every evening with the possibility he will be violent is a huge burden.

I guess the first thing to suggest is that he see the doctor or psychiatrist the prescribed his meds and talk over this behavior. As his own recollections may be hazy I'd suggest you be included if at all possible, otherwise go see his doctor independently. You are entitled to give information, though of course you cannot expect to receive any back without your husband's permission.

Did this exact behavior begin after he started treatment?

How much support are you getting? Trying to deal with all this takes a big toll, is there anyone in your circle of family or friends who you can talk with frankly, who care about you and will help -even if it is only listening?

Croix

[KFry]

Thanks for your response!

I’ve booked into the Drs tomorrow and I will be going with him.

he went to see the Dr “apparently” by himself on Friday and they upt the dosage. I had to feed him dinner last night and when I tried to take him to bed he fell face first to the floor. I had to call an ambulance as he started bleeding. The hospital and paramedic thought he was drunk and on mdma! They didn’t drug test him at the hospital and said his bloods were fine apparent from an issue with the liver. He went and brought a drug test from the chemist this morning to prove that his not on drugs, which came back negative. It’s just unbelievable that they think his drunk when his not.

I talk to my mum who is great at listening but it’s still very hard and lonely. I just want answers. Apparently the medication that his on is not recommended to be taken of a morning as it may cause drowsiness so not sure if I should tell him to change to taking it in the evenings. But on average he doesn’t really make it past 6pm.

[Croix]

Dear KFry~

I think any sensible person would think the problem may well be medication related, and that firstly taking it at night would be appropriate and a possible change of meds in order too. Consequently I'd suggest discussing all this with the doctor tomorrow.

People have differing reactions to medication. I had one for a brief period that made me uncoordinated and dozy, Fortunately I was not on it for long, in fact I managed to call an ambulance myself, and when I told them what I was on they kept me in hospital for observation until it wore off and contacted my doctor who said it was OK to top it straight away. Apparently it reduced my blood pressure a lot.

I'm not suggesting your husband has the same reaction, just it needs properly evaluating.

I'm glad he had the resourcefulness to get a drug test, makes things easier if he shows this to the doctor along wiht the ambulance details.

If it was me I'd write down a full history -from your point of view- and hand it over. Good luck tomorrow

Croix