Narcissistic sister in law

[Lomas]

So my brother has been married less for 2 mths and his wife has done a 180....she is your typical narcissist. I am aware of this mental condition very well as my mother has it. I want a relationship with my brother but not sure how to deal with her . She expects me to call her all the time. Does that like if I call my brother ...even though I rarely do! It's a one-sided relationship. And to add to it she's expecting. Any advice appreciated.

[Doolhof]

Hi Lomas,

Thanks for sharing. Can you text your brother to keep in touch or see if he wants to go out somewhere with you with or without his wife?

We don't have to yield to other people's demands. If you don't want to be in touch with her all the time, then don't. Set boundaries. If you do as she demands than you will not feel happy about the relationship at all, you may feel resentment and abused.

She is your husband's wife, so you do still need to show some respect I guess.

We can try, but we will never change another person. They need to want to change.

Hopefully you can find ways to be respectful to her, have a great relationship with your brother and feel good about yourself. We sometimes need to let the unpleasant stuff roll off us and not stick, otherwise our minds just keep going over and over the hurts.

Are you saying she is expecting a baby or she is expecting you to call her all of the time? If she is pregnant, her hormones could be playing a part in her behaviour as well. Not an excuse for her to behave badly, just something to be aware of.

Hope you find a balance and can look after yourself in all of this.

Cheers from Dools