Originally posted by: nick on 13 July 2012
Hi there,
My girlfriend is the most amazing person I have ever met. On our good days we have a relationship that im sure many people would envy. We understand each other, laugh at our own jokes and love each others company. On good days, she is my best friend, my lover and my family. However, we always had our bad days, and initially I just put it down to being a normal relationship, but recently I have noticed the "bad days" becoming more frequent. She not only has become more intollarant with me, but also her friends and other people she is closest to. I recently have realised many of her relationships have been like this. Sometimes I think that she is angry because I'm a bad boyfriend, Maybe I havent been there for her enough, maybe I havent done all the right things. But the more I try to be perfect, the more she becomes unsatisfied with my efforts. She resents me when I try to find time with my friends and says I live a selfish life. But she then apologises because I dont see my friends enough. Some days she is still the most amazing person, she is happy, talkative and loving. Then the next day she could find it hard to get out of bed, and nothing I do will ever be right. Our problems are getting worse, she finds reasons to be angry at me more often, But when I tell her Ive done nothing wrong and critisize her, she becomes more distant than ever. She has become her worst critic and hates herself if i expose something she has done wrong. She has told me she has been diagnosed with depression before, and I wonder if it is her, or if im a terrible boyfriend. I love this girl with all of my heart but nothing seems to work. She has agreed to see a specialist, but the drugs they put her on only sends her to sleep and she cannot function on them. I dont know what to do, how to act or what to say around her anymore. Either she will get offended or upset if I tell her how I feel and that worries me. Every time I come home I feel a deep sadness in the house. She cannot talk to me and at times cannot even be in the same room as me. I dont know how to handle this anymore,
