Help needed

[Unsure77]

Hi

i recently walked out on my bi polar fiancé as it got abusive and nasty. I wish I had read Tony's post about the cuppa before doing so, I'm not a confrontational person at all, the is sure I cheated on her which I didn't as she contacted the person and was told the same thing, but still didn't believe either us. She told me she loved me and things would change every time I went back but never did. The last time I went back she hit me again so I walked. It's been nearly three weeks now I haven't heard from her. Her family hate me as they all think I cheated on her, she has told them I am a compulsive liar. I love and miss her so much.

have I made the right decision by leaving, not that I think I will ever see or hear from her again. She is all I have thought about since I left.

[Unsure77]

I have tried blocking my number on a SMS but it didn't work.

i guess if she blocks me I have my answer on if she wants to work things out

[Guest9337]

Ah my friend, come into my office, please sit down and have a whiskey with me.

carefully sign up for skype, by providing skype with minimal or diversionary details during registration, add some money to your skype account using a creditcard/gift card you paid cash for, and send the sms.

[Unsure77]

Ahh very nice,

ive done it with pay phone so it's a different number. I think I should wait for the letter, but the worry is will she move on before that

[Guest9337]

Preparation, assets, opportunity, objective.

Hypothetically, A letter in todays covid climate will take anywhere from 1 day to 7 days to be delivered by aussie post, approximately. U could likely firm that estimation up by contacting the mail carrier for their estimation.

So maybe, if you had the safe skype account ready for a particular day to open a safe line of communication just before, or just after the letter might arrive... Well that's a way to continue with negotiations from safety.

[Unsure77]

Or until I can set up that Skype account send a message from a phone box telling her I miss her and love her, sure I will get an email from her as she knows my email

[Unsure77]

Should I go to a pay phone for now to let her know how much I miss her until I can set up the Skype account?

[Guest9337]

Interesting question from the military strategy point of view.

What might you gain if the phone call goes perfectly? What does perfect look like?

What might you loose if the phone call goes badly, like the worst it could go? What's that look like?

Risk assessment.

[Unsure77]

Goes badly... She may not answer, she may be with somebody else she will be angry I have the number and change it. But I guess I know where I stand.

as for positive I'm unsure what that will be.

[Guest9337]

I'll make up a few possibilities to help.

She may do any or all of what you've already posted.

She may say, I'm with someone else get stuffed.

She may say, I'm with someone else - I'll leave them for you.

She may say, I'm still single, get stuffed.

She may say, Get stuffed.

She may say, I'm remorseful lets get back together, but keep everything MY way.

She may say, I'm really missing you, how can I get you back?

She may say, I've won the lottery, I'm coming over with my new car and boyfriend... to ....?

There's a few exhaustive options to consider.

[Guest9337]

And the thing is with DV situations and military strategy, one always has to consider if the other person is going to be honest in what they say with what they intend to do.

So...

She may say, oh wow, I'm really sweet with you coming round, how about tonight it's a quiet night at home. Do you want to come over... And actually be setting a physical trap.

So ya gotta consider think/feel and weigh that all up too.