dear Purp and Our Hero, this is a very sad post, and a difficult one to reply to, well not really.
I'm really sorry for this to have happened, as it will now change both your lives.
When someone commits suicide or attempts to do it, the pressure that it also puts on other people is enormous, and to explain it better I will talk about my attempts to do it.
My family were absolutely petrified that I would try again, and when my sons came home from school the first thing they would do is to see where I was.
These attempts by me certainly changed the relationship between my now ex and myself, as I felt as though her direction in life totally changed, from caring to then being oblivious of how I was feeling and then lost interest in me, but she wanted some excitement in life, which I couldn't give her, simply because of my depression, so that's why she seek it else where.
When two people are suffering from depression it puts a strain on the relationship, but that doesn't mean that it will end, but you have to give each other a bit of space, but there are different ideas of why it happened, and we tend to presume that we know why it was attempted, but they could be totally different ideas of why, and this is when a problem occurs, because we are on a different wave lengths.
It will be tough, but it can survive, and it's going to be a hell of a lot of work, I'm sorry to say. L Geoff. x
