dear AWB, thanks for joining us on this site and taking the trust with have for so many people.
Can I firstly say that it's so good of you wanting to help her through this awful period in her life.
Depressed people can say one thing and then do something different because that's what this illness can do to us, because every day is a different day.
We can never forecast what we will do tomorrow, we can agree with you on the day, but then our mood takes over and the black dog takes over and may incapacitate us and leaves us just wanting to stay in bed, and even if she is talking to her friends on any social media this can happen, because what we do is put on a fake face to our friends wanting them to believe that we have nothing wrong with us.
This is very common for any one with this illness, but she knows that you know, so this is a different ball game.
Just because she hasn't contacted you doesn't mean that she doesn't love you, and won't be in contact again.
Your already understanding for her, but one thing you shouldn't do is to keep asking her questions, because if you do then she will turn away from you, and generally she won't even know the answers anyway, it just confuses her.
One thing is to ask her ( not straight away ) is to see whether or not she has an appointment with either her doctor or maybe psych. and if she would want you to go with her, maybe because the medication isn't working.
I also suggest for you is to click under 'resources' at the top of the page and order all the printed material from BB, it's free but it will give you a greater understanding of what this terrible illness does to anyone with depression.
And I have to also mention that the range of depression is enormous and covers a great deal of different types, but I am so pleased that you contacted us. Geoff.
