Fried won't get help

[Guest_32284936]

My good mate from high school has been in and out of care and refuses to believe that anything is wrong. 

He was first diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar over 10 years ago and since then has bounced around the street or his mum's house but his mum has dementia and the house is barely livable. He does minimum wage jobs and always complains how he can't eat right or do anything about his health because he is so poor and that all he needs is a mate to have a beer with. He drinks every single day. He has alienated most friends with poor hygiene or ranting when we used to see him.

After his last involuntary status stay he seems better but refuses to get any help or speak to anyone and thinks that he was completely fine and it was just his brother out to get him.

How can I tell him I can't be there for him every day and he needs to speak to someone who can help him. 

[Sophie_M]

Hi Lostat40,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your experience with us and welcome to the forums! We’re glad you’re here.

What you’ve described is something many of us here can likely relate to - wanting to help a friend or loved one who doesn’t see a problem or isn’t ready to seek support. It can feel overwhelming and impact your own wellbeing. Please know that your presence and care already make a big difference in his life.

While we can’t force someone to seek support, there are ways that we can gently encourage and guide them. It’s okay to let your friend know you’re concerned, especially since you can’t always be there every day, and you want to make sure he has support if he needs it.

These conversations can be challenging, so we’ve put together a helpful guide on how to talk to someone about their mental health, as well as tips for supporting someone to connect with a mental health professional.

It is a lot to be carrying. If you ever need to talk, you’re always welcome to contact Beyond Blue counsellors at 1300 22 4636 or via webchat.

Thank you again for posting. We hope this community can be a supportive space for you. We’re here for you.

Kind regards,
Sophie M