Depressed partner

[Grosby]

Hello. I am extremely concerned that my wife is very depressed. She won't let me in her room. She hasn't eaten or drank in 3 days. She has been depressed before and worked her way out of it. She has been so strong and good in that but this time I fear she doesn't want to recover and may want to die. The indications seem there. She has just hurt her back as well so is partially immobile.

I am not coping myself trying to work out what to do, who can help, when to get help. I don't want to go another day her not eating or drinking. I'm lost.

[james1]

Hi Grosby,

Is she still communicating with you or anyone like other family members?

To me, if she hasn't come out and had something to drink for 3 days that's looking like an emergency and you may need to call 000.

Even if she is drinking water, she could at risk to herself and again, you'd need to call 000 if she's uncooperative.

Sorry, I don't mean to be alarming but not drinking water and locking herself in is a really bad sign.

James

[geoff]

hi Grosby, I don't like the sound of what's going on at the moment for her safety, but if you're sure that she hasn't had anything to eat or drink in the last 3 days, then I'm sorry but it's important that you can get in and see how she is going, 3 days is a long time, and if you need call the police who will be able to break in, but if it's your house so you are able to break in yourself.
I would talk to the police so they can break in while you're with them, otherwise it has to be done by yourself straigtht away without delay, however the poice can have an ambulance when they call them.
It doesn't matter whether she sneaks out while you are asleep and has a drink she needs help now, so please let us know what happens, but you have to get into that room now without delay. Geoff.