Hi Libertblu, welcome
I know how he feels. Briefly. In 1987 well before diagnosis for mental illness but suffering from it! I was in a workplace incident that amounted to others higher up the hierarchy wanting me to agree to minor corruption, favouring a State politician. I refused and got a panic attack. As it was believed it was a hear attack, I was taken off work. Then the fight began as information was leaked to the local media. My bosses told lies about me and I fought them for 10 months. Like a dog with a bone. Eventually I moved on.
In your husbands case his depression will likely place his thought patterns into a similar almost paranoid state whereby he cant let go of his previous encounter. With his new job falling out of favour will compound his feelings and erode his confidence as it did with me. The cycle will continue because his lack of detail could be due to his illness. He cant expect any understanding (Google the following) "Topic: they just wont understand, why?- beyondblue" regardless of his honourable action of opening up which, strategically is a debatable idea. Honesty doesn't always work with humans especially supervisors that have more care about monthly performance figures.
I'll be direct here. Another change of job is likely the best way as it was for me. A job away from his common career path can be a dose of fresh air. In my case I ended up getting a job as a supervisor of disabled adults in a sheltered workshop a far cry from a dog ranger. Then security work largely working alone then started my own business as a private investigator. This last job I remained until I retired and for many years worked alone driving long distances with no one to supervise me. Working alone is preferred IMO for depressed people. Personalities are hard to deal with for us. That nit picking just doesn't exist. Yes there are responsibilities and phone calls. But if unwell I would let the calls go to messagebank and ring when feeling better etc.
Google these also
"Topic: Depression and toxic people- beyondblue"
"Topic: They just don't understand, why?- beyondblue"
"topic: If all else fails what can you do? be radical- beyondblue"
"Topic: Being withdrawn to achieving confidence- beyondblue"
"Topic: Getting depression into perspective, please read this it might help TOU- beyondblue"
"Topic: Defending yourself, don't be an easy target- beyondblue"
Hope they help. Lots of reading there.
Tony WK
