Mamie, well done on coming onto the forums and seeking out advice and answers although i don't think that you need to many. You clearly know what is going and your plan is a good one - I like it. Surely his family needs to step up and help out where they can.
Is his Dad still around? A good chat between those two and the evils of alcohol on him would say to me that he needs to cut it out all together. If Dad is no longer around, someone who has influence on him, maybe even one of his best mates could do the trick as well.
You need to make sure that YOU look after your own health. Being a carer places great strain on someone as they are essentially looking after two people at times. Make sure that you diet is good, drinking lots of water and take some timeout. Go for a run or a swim or a walk, whatever. Just make sure that you are getting body movement.
Have you practiced mindfulness before? If not, would be a great time to start. There are some really good apps out there that can assist you in learning or continuing with it. I use Smiling Mind every day and love it. It is very calming.
You are obviously very mentally strong as so many others would have bunked out long before but you are sticking to it. Much respect for that.
Perhaps pop on over to the carers threads and have a read. Might be worthwhile and you could pick up some helpful tips - www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/supporting-family-and-friends-with-a-mental-health-condition-(carers)
Keep engaging with us and letting us know how you are going. We are all just as much about your own mental health as much as your partners.
Mark.
