Hi lost+empty,
Thanks for getting back to us! People here do care. We are all anonymous but are still part of an amazing community of people that care for each other. I agree with you, sometimes it is easier to talk to strangers than it is our own families when life is tough.
Those negative thoughts that build up and keep going around and around in our minds can feel really destructive can't they! Earlier this year I was in a horrid place. Things that helped me were going out for long walks, we live in the country so that was possible.
I used phone support services frequently!
I wrote down a lot of stuff that was going on in my head. Once all the rotten stuff was down on paper I would try to think of at least three things I was thankful for, even if it was simple stuff like food, sunshine and a hot shower.
Listening to music helps. Creating something can be inspiring. I like to paint for the enjoyment of it. My art work looks like a 2 year old produced it sometimes, but the process is relaxing and enjoyable.
When I am out and I feel disconnected, I take photos on my phone and look at the photos later so I can really concentrate on the detail of what is/was around me. It helps me feel more connected.
I find different strategies work well one day and not so good the next.
Sometimes I google how to deal with feeling disconnected and explore different ideas that might help.
Not sure if any of these ideas will benefit you or not. Sometimes it is a matter of trying and being open to opportunities. It is okay to say none of this is for you as well.
Wishing everyone reading growth and a sense of peace, cheers from Dools
