Unimportant

[ReachOut83]

All the time I feel plagued by loneliness. Sometimes I feel as if I am the only lonely person out there.

in my adolescence I was the odd one out, because I was big and tall and people just seemed to stay clear of me (not that I acted tough, and never thought that I was). I was in a relationship in 2017-2019, where I was used and bled dry constantly.
When I go to cafes, or restaurants by myself I look around and see groups, pairs, couples and families out together, and it makes me realise how unimportant I am. Even just one person to talk to weekly would be good. I enjoy walking, going out for coffee, cooking, and walking my dog. I have been referred to as a people pleaser. I don’t know? I just think that it is easier to be nice and accomodating, then selfish.
I ask myself often whether it is worth being here anymore, or not? Sometimes I think how peaceful it would be to not be here.

Just a thought.

[Sophie_M]

Hey ReachOut83,

Thank you for sharing here tonight. We can hear just how lonely you are feeling and the impact it has been having on you. Feeling like we are on the outside and not fitting in can be very heavy and blocks us from forming connections with others. We are so sorry you are plagued by these deep, distressing feelings and thoughts. Many people in this community will be able to relate to what you are experiencing and hopefully will chime in with insight from their own experiences.

You have mentioned in your other post that you are seeing a psychiatrist. Have you had a chat with your mental health specialist about these feelings that you are going through?

You mentioned a few things you enjoy doing which is a very positive sign and shows that you are able to recognise the things and activities that bring you pleasure and peace.

Please know that even though you are feeling alone, you have support available. In addition to this wonderful community, you can reach out to Beyond Blue's Support Service any time at
1300 22 4636. If you feel like you're reaching a crisis point you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 any time of the day or night. You might also like to check out the Suicide Call Back Service. You can call them 24/7 on 1300 659 467 or you can register for online chat or video counselling: https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/phone-and-online-counselling/

Please keep checking in here to let us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it. Remember you're not alone and we're here to provide you with as much support, advice and conversation as you need.

[geoff]

Hello ReachOut, and welcome to the forums.

When you say loneliness there are different ways people look at this, but being a people pleaser doesn't show you love and respect when you do things for others who are avoiding or can't do for themselves and you can't try and attach yourself to people who need your sense of ability on their approval of you because this will make you feel distanced, waiting for the invitation to join them.

Remember if someone in another group is dissatisfied it's not up to you to find a solution, if however, you join the group then you can discuss and add onto whatever else is said.

The relationship you were in may have contributed to how you are feeling now, is that how you feel?

Would like to hear back from you when you're available.

Geoff.

[ReachOut83]

The psychiatrist said not to increase my medication, and to find a good psychologist.
that is the next step.

[ReachOut83]

I did see a psychiatrist. He advised that I still take my medication as normal, and to find an on going psychologist.