Dear Knip~
Welcome here to the Support Forum It is a friendly place, and most here have suffered badly in their lives, something that helps with understanding.
I guess the first thing to say is that being abused as a child can leave a life-long scar, it is a huge injury. Do you think perhaps the fact that you waited until 40 may indicated the depth of hurt you had to overcome to talk about it?
Not to be believed is terrible, and it is very understandable that you no longer wanted to be in contact. Parents by rights should be the ones to believe, comfort and support.
One does learn from parents however, I did, and used them as a model of how not to treat children, and it sounds as if you have done the same thing - a little bit of good coming out of a bad situation.
I'm sorry to hear of your husband's operations, hip and knee , particularly together they leave a person helpless and in discomfort if not pain. Plus being pretty much dependent on others. I do know in my state there is a waiting list, and one has to grab the opportunity when offered, and there is no timescale, it could be weeks or years.
I'm not sure I understand enough about your family situation to make much comment. I realise a couple of years ago you youngest daughter became distant, and that your eldest daughter has married, however you were not made to feel welcome.
Add to that the remark you husband has never taken your side and I'm a bit lost. I'd have thought after 55 years together you might have been in the habit of discussing family problems together. Do you know what his view is?
Do you mind saying if you think there is a particular cause, or something that happened a couple of years ago that started this all off?
Croix
