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Why I cried today

white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

It's been a week or more since the build up began.  I could feel it coming. That welling in my eyes as if Niagra Falls was on the brink but it wasnt coming until this morning.

Compassion. It's a strong word. It is, in my world at least, essential to my character. I'm not boasting, I'm relating. To you, yes you that is reading this. I've been on this forum for 6 months and I, for once feel safe. A place we can share and be compassionate understanding and grateful. This place is so valuable money cannot buy its replacement. There is no room for criticism of this place. If it comes it is due to the very few that have their own issues with coping that cannot read our stories of pain. So they need help from elsewhere.

Recently we had a regular dear member that lost his close mum and then there is all the funeral arrangements that would drain and test any of us. There has been some brave new posts one of which comes to my mind "think b4 you act"....how amazing as he faces his umpteenth operation to repair damage to his body.  There are long term posters struggling to keep their heads above water even after more than 500 posts but they hang in there asking, learning and then, the most important thing....putting advice into action. And there are the young posters lately that have taken my breath away with their honesty and maturity beyond their years. Some as young as 15yo that are not even adults. Well done.

I salute those here that give advice to others, yet if we all knew their own life's history we would be astounded how they have come to a point whereby they can give help to others. Simply amazing.

This forum is about more than support . It's about sharing between equals. Equals? Yes, we are all equals. A seemingly small issue for one person can be near the end of their world. So we cannot judge what is major and what is not. For that person with the 'small' issue could very well manifest into a life struggle. Or they could turn into a great adviser here. Each of us is valued. Each of us is a link in a recovery chain. More than support, this site is growth by learning, strength by reaching out and a service by listening.

So I figured out why I cried this morning. It wasnt a long cry but a short one.

I cried because I'm happy. I have a home here.

3 Replies 3

Jo3
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Tony

Well written Tony.  Thank you for sharing.  I have to agree with you that BB forum is a safe place for me and I have made so many "on line forum" friends.  Even though we have never met I feel a connection with you and a lot of others on here.

There's a bond of understanding, supporting and caring and having empathy for each other.  I too am so happy to have found this place, without this place I honestly don't know what I would have done or where I would be.

So thank you for starting this post and thank you to BB.

Jo

dougall
Community Member
we all do.  Thank you for this wonderful post, I also feel safe and unjudged.

Doolhof
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Dear Tony,

Thanks for your meaningful words. They are lovely.

From Mrs. Dools