Hello Abbie
I can definitely empathise. I spend pretty much every night alone, which I’m ok with generally, but the weekends can be pretty hard. Last night, like you, I was feeling lonely and wishing there was someone around to just spend time with.
It’s a tricky situation because I don’t think there are any easy answers. But there are a few things that I’ve found that help. Something I do is try to make Saturday night feel different from the other nights. Kind of special. I might buy some nice cheeses, olives, crackers and something nice to drink. Kind of like the food you’d have if you were catching up with people. Then I pick a movie I’ve wanted to see and just relax. It’s about making it a bit indulgent I guess. Spoiling yourself. It could be anything that would make it unique to the rest of the week.
Another thought I had was that you could organise something, once a month say, where your friends come over for a specific purpose. Like ‘Abbie’s monthly game night’ or Abbie’s monthly dinner party’. I have a friend who does this. He has a group of friends over and cooks for them, or they all bring a dish of food to share. If you made it a regular thing I think people are more likely to commit and it’ll be something to look forward to and plan for. I’d love to do this, if I had friends.
That’s all I can think of right now. I hope it’s a little helpful. And just know that you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Take care
Alexlisa
