Vent and then let it go...

[Guest_1055]

Not sure about anyone else but sometimes I just need to vent, including venting any frustrations, fears, hopes, worries, longings and anything else. Most of the time I don't want any advice or any responses. Just need a way to get it all out from within me.

So thought this thread could be for those sort of things. No one replys to you with words or anything. It's a place to let it all go. Just dump whatever it is you want to say and leave it here.

So yeah no replys please.

[Harpbird]

Oh emo, so sorry to hear you bad news, can’t be easy. Even more sorry them that supposed to be family said such a horrid thing to you, totally uncalled for. Try to keep positive, I know it can be hard in such a situation. We’re all wishing you the best . I have had breast cancer and two melanomas , though I am lucky really , my were found by drs checking for other health problems I had.

. Hugs xxx

[Emo]

Hello Harpbird,

Thank you very much for your kind comforting words. I'm so sorry that you have also suffered with cancer. Its my fourth time so I'm used to having it cut out and getting treatment but I usually have the support of my dad but this time I'm on my own without his support.

I know that other people have worse health than me so I should be grateful that I'm still alive. I'm just terrified about them cutting into my brain. I just wish that I could talk to someone who has been through this.

Due to Covid lockdown I'm stuck with my husband. I'm hoping it ends soon. I don't know what to do with my mother. I'm stuck with my husband as I married him for better or worse but with my mother what do I do? I have to respect her as she raised me but she is constantly telling me to end my life.

What do I do? Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.

Regards,

Emo.

[Harpbird]

I am not in your position, here it comes,

BUT, I have a dear friend who suddenly started getting migraines ( some dr should understand we know our bodies). Well when she went for a brain scan they found a large anurism. She was rushed to hospital and a few days later operated on. Her anurism burst on the table. She is so very lucky to be here. Have you tried the cancer council forum? There will be people or stories that might help you read and talk to as well as here. Xx

[Emo]

Hi Harpbird,

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, I'm glad she is OK now. I know what you mean about the Drs not listening to you about your body. I had to fight for a long time to get my Dr to refer me onto a specialist.

Unfortunately I may have got the medical help I needed too late. I won't go into details but its spread. I'm just taking it one day at a time.

I also wanted to thank you for suggesting I contact the cancer council forum. They were so kind for my first webchat. I will contact them after my next set of tests so thank you.

Regards,

Emo.

[Matchy69]

Hi Emo I am so sorry to read about your health problems and it didn't sound very good for you.I send you my deepest best wishes and prayers for you.

[Harpbird]

Hi emo, that’s great you called them, I have had two melanomas ( caught early and left with huge scares. Many BCC , one little one grew on the side of my nose and near my eye, they took a full thickness graft from beside my ear to fill that hole. But as with a lot of BCC they grow bigger under the skin than what you see on surface. Well it was growing on the nerve near the eye, i had a lead face mask made to protect my eyes and two weeks of radiation to kill that little sucker. One other grew on my ear lobe I thought was just a pimple but no I ended up have the full ear lobe removed , funny enough when I do wear earring in my left ear people will say “ oh I think you lost an earring “I say“ no I lost an ear lobe “ should see there faces lol. I have had many procedures for skin cancer and one early breast cancer. The cancer council forum is wonder and so helpful. So happy you found it. Xx

[Ggrand]

Hello Everyone...

Dear Emo, My DIL was diagnosed with brain cancer about 2 years ago...She had an operation to remove it, then radiation and chemo...they didn’t get it all out but the radiation and chemo shrunk the rest of it..

That was 2 years ago..now she gets scans every 6 months to keep an eye on it..and after 3 scans it hasn’t grown and DIL is doing great....

I wish only the best for you lovely Emo....Do you know the date of your operation?...

Sending you my love and care..

Grandy..

[Guest_1055]

Feeling myself detaching from reality. So many things in my life and others that I can't cope with. Don't know how

[Emo]

Hi Matchy69,

Thank you for being so concerned about my health. You are always so kind to everyone.

I really appreciate your prayers as it has turned out that I'm much worse than first thought.

I can't lie, I'm terrified. I'm trying to put on a brave face but I just really want to cry. I know that I am very lucky that I am still here but I'm just really overwhelmed.

I hope you and your son and daughter are going OK with the way things are with Covid. You and your family are in my prayers as well.

Regards,

Emo.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Emo, 

We are really sorry to hear that you are feeling terrified right now. We can only imagine what this challenge must be like for you. We want to thank you for being brave and sharing your story here on the forums, you are an important member of this community and we always value your contributions. 

If you do ever want to talk to someone, we are here for you anytime on 1300 22 4636. Or, if you prefer you can call Lifeline 13 11 14. Whichever one you choose you will be welcomed by kind and supportive counsellors who want to help you in the moment with your distress as well as help you find ongoing community supports. 

You can also call the Cancer Council on 13 11 20 or check out their amazing website with out options for support here.

Thank you again for sharing today, please feel free to update us on how you are going if you are comfortable. 

Kind regards ,
Sophie M