Vent and then let it go...

[Guest_1055]

Not sure about anyone else but sometimes I just need to vent, including venting any frustrations, fears, hopes, worries, longings and anything else. Most of the time I don't want any advice or any responses. Just need a way to get it all out from within me.

So thought this thread could be for those sort of things. No one replys to you with words or anything. It's a place to let it all go. Just dump whatever it is you want to say and leave it here.

So yeah no replys please.

[Guest_1055]

It just feels so sad. I am not sure what happened, something was and is different with me.

We were getting along fine. But something switched and now it feels like he despises me.

[Guest_1055]

There is an uneasiness and unrest in me. Don't like it

[Guest_1584]

lt can be totally draining and exhausting for the other , totally , burn out, and often just too much to ask imo, . So we really need to remember that and to do what we can to make things easier for them. and to give back too. Think you should talk to him shell.

rx

[Guest_4643]

Not at all Mark

[Guest_1584]

Yaknow , day by day been goin on a few yrs now getting worse and worse, but l feel bloody traumatized by the idiocy of Australian tv ads and news. Yaknow, they can ttry an educational softer approach about bloody anything.

Everything is a threat or horror ad , bush fires, car accidents , getting drunk, threat of massive fines, smoking, all of it , it's all threats threats threats . Meanwhile they put all this horror into people subconscious. The news is just as bad. Had a friend of a friend come back after living in UK 10yrs and she could not believe the tv and ads here now.She said even on the news over there you saw very little of murders or crashes or all the horrors and threats they splatter our news and tv with. She actually said my God this bs is bloody terrible how do Australians cope with this crap thrown at them left and right and that she literally felt traumatized by it all so in your face only wks after being back.

Well l'm not bloody surprised . No good will in this country , it's all just threats and scare mongering , makes me bloody sick to the stomach .

ex

[Guest_4643]

i seem to be going through so much lately, and i feel so alone.

This lady in my street was rude. she came up to my house at 8pm at night randomly, although we spoke to her earlier that day. she was there until nearly 11pm. i told her i had to take my medication and i had to go. she didn't care, kept talking.

i don't have a problem with people venting because we all need to do that. but this went on for 3 hours, her whole life story, just repeating it. whenever i tried to tell her something about me to make her feel less alone or whatever, she cut me off and kept making it about her. that's just selfish and to talk to someone at 10.30pm. i had 100 or so mozzie bites after it, and i'm allergic to them.

i tried to be polite and talk instead of telling her to go away but if it happens again or if i talk to her somehow then i will, because she just loaded all of her baggage so to speak onto me. i can barely deal with my own problems. i tried to listen and offer suggestions but she kept pushing them aside.

she told me she saw a psychologist on telehealth and it was crap because of the connection so she won't do it again. without being rude i said that's stupid and you should try again, you have to be prepared for that stuff happening, it's normal. it doesn't mean the psychologist is bad and won't help just because of bad connection. it happens when i see my psychiatrist nearly every time and i don't complain and say i don't want to see him again.

i gave her suggestions of contacting helplines and psychologists, she said "oh those things make you worse". yes that's her opinion which she's entitled to but every suggestion i gave she pushed it aside and wasn't even thankful.

if i can get a psychologist and keep trying after many bad traumatic experiences, she can too. i would rather that than her talk to me for 3 hours about her life story at 10.30pm. like i said i didn't tell her to leave but i was getting annoyed and distressed because i have my own problems.

i try to be that type of person who is there for people, but that annoyed me. thought it was selfish & rude.

[CMF]

Shell.

I feel the same with my work colleague. She is nice to everyone else but when i ask a question she is snappy and at times rude. I've realised sh is two faced, selfish and very fake. She is always the victim, negative and a constant complainer. I'm new in the role and she has made it clear she is not a 'trainer' an its not part of her job to train me. If she does get something she wants it's not enough, she wants more/something else. She is a misery guts and draging me down.

[Guest_1055]

I know someone has been hurt. Emotional abuse. It is someone I care about so much. It feels like a part of my heart breaks.

[PsychedelicFur]

Am I a terrible person? Was the emotional abuse as bad as I thought it was? Maybe, I was just as equally as toxic? I mean, I use to overthink and overanalyse most situations in the relationship. Maybe I was just as horrible towards him. Is he hurting? Should I be concerned for his mental health state? I’m feeling so anxious and upset.

[Guest_1584]

No l don't think you should at all by the sounds of it. Try not to let it drain you and ficus on you now l'd say. Good luck. rx