Hi Shelll,
These are difficult, sometimes very awkward situations, & I can't say I have an answer. Writing a letter, is up to you, but I would think about trying to talk to them first. as soon as you can following such an incident, & say something like, "Now I can listen to you. I'm all ears What's on your mind?"
You might quickly find out your nephew's brother -in-law had wanted to talk to tyour nephew, & then say, "I'm sorry you had to wait while he was talking to me. I hope you understand it was important." Or if younephew's brother-in-law had wanted to speak to you,again, apologise for the fact that he had to wait while your nephew was talking. & go on to say, I'm ready now, to listen to you.
You don't need to make a big deal of it. If one or the other is very upset, then you might talk more about what he is feeling & thinking about what happened. He would need to feel he is heard & understood.
I don't know how well you can follow what I've written. It is a suggestion anyway, & you might like to try to imagine other socially awkward situations & what you might say or do, kind of. practise in your mind, for times when you need to have a plan for what to say or do, because when feeling a lot of anxiety, we find it hard to think right then & there. 😺💖
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I know, what I do, I get so flustered, I really can't think on my feet, & let others talk for me, like I'm too slow or something, & they jump right in, & I don't pipe up & stop them Why can't I expect people to wait while I collect my thoughts?...I really don't like that!!!
That's my vent, today. (now it's Sunday).
mmMekitty
