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Store Your Happy Memories Here:

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear All~

What this place is for:
This thread is a tool, a resource, and also I guess a dash of entertainment.

I’ve found that when life is grim that sometimes thoughts of past happiness can create a chink of light in the grey overwhelming press of down. They can help occupy the mind with lighter reflections.

With that in view I invite people to set down a brief passage describing some happy event they look back to with fondness and peace.

They - and others too - can then return to it when they feel the need to glean a little warmth.

It is not a place for gloomy or dire tales, those can go elsewhere.

What to do:
Just set out, as simply as you like, your recollection of some past experience that means something good to you, something you enjoyed, something from safe times.

It can be, like my story below, anything – from an account of visiting grandparents to simply cooking and eating a melted-cheese sandwich in a favorite kitchen – you get to choose.

How to do it:
Write. Write enough so someone else can feel the mood, know what happened, find the goodness. (stop at 2,500 characters please!)

Grammar, syntax, spelling, punctuation are not compulsory, just write as you can – the only important thing is the content - not literary merit. Short or long - it does not matter.


I hope you enjoy, contribute and find a little distraction here when you need it.

Croix

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The_Abyss
Community Member

I was around 15 and on a rare family holiday up the coast. We had been doing what everyone else wanted to do when I came across a sign advertising horse riding on the beach. I had a deep love of horses, but the promised beast had never eventuated. Begging to be allowed to go, I could barely sleep, waiting for the next morning.

Up early, jeans to reduce the pinches from the stirrups, closed in shoes as the ad had said. We saddled up our horses, mine a big, beautiful black gelding, his flesh quivering in the early morning sunshine. A slow amble down the dusty road, the clip-clop a melodious lullaby to the senses. The mist wafting up from the road surface, the promise of a warm and sunny day ahead.

We road the horses down the lane ways to the local ferry, loading them on and taking them the half hour trip across the water. On the other side, the sand shone white, the water glistering like emeralds caught in a flash of sunlight. Trotting, cantering, galloping, the wind in my hair, the freedom in my soul. Up and down sand dunes, racing along the water's edge, riding like the wind until the great breast was heaving below me, his muscles spent. Finally, taking off saddles (and clothes!), we crashed into the gentle waves, floating on beasts, the water lapping. The sea spray in my hair, the water droplets running down the beast's neck, the salty taste in my mouth. Cooled and spent, we re-saddled, making the slow journey home. Paradise!

Thank you The Abyss, that memory of yours sounds adventurous and has a sense of carefree freedom doesn't it? I love wind blowing through my hair too, though I often wear it in some sort of bun or ponytail as it is a challenge to keep neat. Anyway thanks heaps for sharing .......

A memory popped into my mind this morning. This is where I am at.... Standing behind a handmade timber cart. It was painted but I don't remember the colour of it and I don't remember the exact age I was either, but it was below 12 years. old. On top of the cart were a few rows of fresh green beans. The beans were bagged up in kilo lots, all nice and neat like. Beside them were bags of homegrown tomatoes. Some times one would see corn as well and Mother's Day flowers in white tall buckets. The flowers were there only around May. If you looked ahead near the road you can see one blackboard sign saying beans $2. If one felt brave enough to walk up further there may be another sign placed out as well. On the cart there was also a container that had money in it.

This cart is one my dad built. I would stand or sit behind it, waiting for cars to come by. Some would stop, some would slow down and the people would look. And some cars just drove on by. I didn't mind serving the people that stopped, as I could pretend I was some important shop keeper. I could give them their change and everything. I do remember some customers even helping me count out their change properly.

I had to keep on eye on the bags of beans and tomatoes, because when they were running out, I had to go back to the house and get more. Or sometimes another member of the family would come and check to see if more was needed I think. That part is a vague memory there. The checking up part that is. Anyway I could just wait there behind the cart, day dream about whatever and imagine that I was important as I was a shop keeper. Loved it.......

The_Abyss
Community Member
Lub dub, lub dub, lub dub..... lying peaceful in my husband's arms, feeling almost normal for a fleeting moment, the first time in a very long while.

I need a happy reminder today and this is always helpful for me...

A beautiful spring day. Dry soil and rocks underfoot. Clear blue sky above. Sun beating down. A bluetongue lizard on a rock watching our progress up the steep hill.

Are you ok? You seem impatient. What's the hurry hon? Curious.

Finally! Overheated. Collapsed on the granite outcrop. Lying side by side. Dry moss under our heads. Baking in the sun. Just the two of us and the world far below.

I wonder if there is any of the sundews left or if it's too hot for them already? What's your hurry hon? Rest for a while! Laughter.

Well off you go then, I'll close my eyes while you go find me a sundew. I will laze here and enjoy the sun. Hang on! Yell out so I can take some blind photos of you. Laughter.

Sit up. Eyes closed. Shadow through closed eyelids. Put out your hand hon. You found one? In this heat? Eyes open. An open box in my hand. Soulmate on his knees. Shock and pleasure. He wants me forever too?

Yes. Yes! Champagne and cake on the top of the world. Sunlight on a sparkling stone. Stunned. Blissful laughter. I suppose we should get to the car it's pretty hot and we're pretty drunk.

Are we lost? Laughter. Just our luck hon. Oh well if we are lost in the bush forever that's ok. I'm with you.

Ah that is so special Quercus....beautiful

An incident happened to me on the Easter weekend. So I guess it is a very recent memory that I want to remember.

One week before Easter I bought a medium sized chocolate Easter egg. I actually bought it for myself to eat. When I arrived home after shopping I intended to just eat it. But when I went to do so, well it was not with the rest of the shopping. I could not find it anyway. So then I thought perhaps I didn't buy one at all and I just looked at in the store or something. I don't keep shopping dockets, so I couldn't check. Anyway as the week went on I forgot all about it. ...

Anyway on the weekend, which happened to be Easter weekend. I was busily vacuuming the car out. First the drivers side then the front passenger side. I bend down to check under the passenger seat to make sure I didn't suck up any dropped money . I didn't see any money, but oh my gosh there was an Easter egg under there. It was still securely wrapped up nice and clean like. I found an Easter egg that I sort of hid without knowing where I hid it. Or it hid itself, most likely rolled clean out of the shopping bag. I often put a bag on that passenger seat. Well anyway I laughed, which was a good feeling inside. And I felt that same thrill that sometimes comes upon you when you are on an official Easter egg hunt and you find a chocolate Easter egg.....

Fairywings
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
My non verbal little man who has severe autism is calling me mum now and today showed me his grease stricken fingers as he carried daddy's shifter spanner set over to me as we were chilling out in the backyard soaking up some sunshine 😊🤗 happy days 🤗🤗

BenD
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Playing board games with my family on a Friday night instead of going out 🙂

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Venessa~

I'll have to post here as I'm at a loss as to if you have a thread - I do know you have been here for a long time, lending cheerful encouraging support to umpteen - flitting around like the fairy in your picture:)

It makes me both sad and happy at the same time to read you happy memory. Sad at you little man's condition and happy that you have a such a precious moment - I'm very glad. I guess it is the hard won that is valued the most.

Please take care of yourself (and your little man too of course)

Croix

Fairywings
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Hello there im trying been struggling a little these last couple of months both financially and emotionally 😓 but must push on for my little boy i am the only one he has dad is around but I care for him 150% of the time. This whole autism gig hardest thing ive ever done and I know I'm not coping well atm im hoping it will pass as my days continue on as they say once you have had a mental illness for so long you just know how to make broken look beautiful xx thanks for your reply brought a tear to my eye xx

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Venessa~

Coping is something else, to have to do so is part of the unfairness of life. From what I have read of yours I'm seeing someone strong - and able.

As I said you give your support all over the place, I know the feeling, it does one good, however sometimes it can be good to have some yourself, I know that feeling too. I don't know all your story, though you have bits and pieces all over.

Would you like to make your own thread for a while, or you could use Croix Parler if you preferred. Just somewhere quiet you could vent or whatever.

Just a thought, no obs

Croix (Who will lend you one of Dottie123's virtual tissues if you like - they are surprisingly effective, I should know)