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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Andrew-1972 Poem - 'Ode to persistence.'
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G'Day all, First time Post here. I have always been passionate about Mens’ Health and just recently wrote a poem about Persistence. I thought I would send it to ‘Beyond Blue', an organisation that always leads by example, ‘talk’s the talk and walk’s ... View more

G'Day all, First time Post here. I have always been passionate about Mens’ Health and just recently wrote a poem about Persistence. I thought I would send it to ‘Beyond Blue', an organisation that always leads by example, ‘talk’s the talk and walk’s the walk’. Hopefully, this humble Ode might resonate with one person who might be doing it tough right now and thinks there is no end in sight. ODE TO PERSISTENCECan you hear it in the distance?Past the willows and the treesThrough the rain and misty valleysOn the tide of aqua seas?Like a camel in the desert,You go searching for a drink,But that shimmer’s just a glimmer...Into dust, your hopes do sink.Still, you climb that lofty mountain,Up amongst the rocky cropsYour legs are tired and weary,And the struggle never stops.Then you float along the oceanLife-raft bursting at the seams.But the drifting lasts forever,And it never meets your dreams. How much longer can you take it?Will you ever find the key?Your internal voice reminds you,There’s a place you need to be.You try and make your own luck,As the time keeps ticking by,Because you know your dream is worthySo, you give it one more try!With a soul in search of wisdomYou’re committed to the truth,And soon you start to realise...That all you need is proof!Like a dancer chasing answers –waltzing proudly down the roadThen you ask yourself the question -What's the moral of this ode?And a light comes shining brightlyAs it’s whispered in your ear -Keep on pushing forward friend...Success is very near.

Beaser Letting People Down Or Feeling That Way.
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Hi and best wishes to everyone. I was wondering do people have feelings of letting people down when they dont feel up to social events. I am lucky to have some great friends and for example i have just been asked to go away for a few days but its jus... View more

Hi and best wishes to everyone. I was wondering do people have feelings of letting people down when they dont feel up to social events. I am lucky to have some great friends and for example i have just been asked to go away for a few days but its just easier to say no . I know that i have to push myself but i have been battling a bit of late and i feel tired and mentally drained. I dont want to lose friends because of not doing things . Im really battling with this problem.

Guest_6011 Re- clouded, unclear mind
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Hey guys this could go in anxiety or staying well to be honest. But given been able to relatively handle this stuff, just usually recently. The clouded mind, unclear judgement sort of thing means that yeah can/have been able to just get on with life.... View more

Hey guys this could go in anxiety or staying well to be honest. But given been able to relatively handle this stuff, just usually recently. The clouded mind, unclear judgement sort of thing means that yeah can/have been able to just get on with life. Somewhat but yeah still gets at me, just stays tricky to work through and deal with. Cos sometimes saying the wrong thing happens and just feel weird and look often feel bad for it. Even shame/guilt so yeah is tough, anyway yeah just thought would put this out there. Good day for anyone that sees this yeah

white knight Community projects- obligations and measured effort
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From when we were toddlers we had obligations. Then they escalated into school routines and chores. As we grew we realised how many tasks we carry out each day from bins out to be emptied to cutting toes nails to house cleaning and work. Dozens and d... View more

From when we were toddlers we had obligations. Then they escalated into school routines and chores. As we grew we realised how many tasks we carry out each day from bins out to be emptied to cutting toes nails to house cleaning and work. Dozens and dozens of tasks each day. But when our mind breaks down we cannot seem to carry out the most basic of tasks like rising out of bed and getting a meal. Furthermore those friends that dont understand will without realising, place pressure upon you with options you have no chance of accomplishing. "Just come out with us one night, we'll have a ball". I've always had a side to me that included some sort of community inclusion like maybe a local councillor or mens shed co-ordinator or similar. But I saw my restrictions and opted to do a few projects that didnt include so much communication with people. I lived in a very small town and there was no shelter. I approached the local council with my plan to build a rotunda near a river for visitors, (I had built 3 previously) To complete the task I had to work with some local committees and thats where the trouble began. Primarily those members too offence that 1/ they hadnt thought of the idea first 2/ that the rotunda would take away funds for other projects they had planned previously 3/ They resented the fact I had only been in the town 5 years whereas they all grew up there. Yet again I had to learn a lesson. Seems life as a sensitive bipolar/depressant cant get the obligation levels accurate, and my efforts are always full on, hence from the mania. So the obvious occurred, complete breakdown of emotions half way through the project. So I resigned from it. There is now a shelter with bbq in that park next to the river, no pretty rotunda but a shelter none the less. Community projects for many of us should be measured and without obligation. No obligation means an open membership, attend if you feel good, leave when you are not feeling good. Simple. Try to accept that we are not suitable for some positions in society. This forum however allows me an open obligation- I can close my computer anytime and open it anytime. Plus the satisfaction of helping people nationwide. A big difference to joining a dozen people on a project giving out sausage sizzles at a hardware store where you feel you are letting others down if you need to return home because a guy snapped at you because his onions were raw. Charity begins at homeTonyWK

K_Ley I know they mean well
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Hi, just wondering if anyone else is having daily contact with others on a mental health journey. I am a teacher and there are about 4 other teachers in my department at various stages of their mental health journey. As a relative newbie, I have been... View more

Hi, just wondering if anyone else is having daily contact with others on a mental health journey. I am a teacher and there are about 4 other teachers in my department at various stages of their mental health journey. As a relative newbie, I have been listening to their advice and stories about what to do and what not to do. I am now thinking that is not a great idea. I feel like they are now reliving the early stages of their journeys through me, and what they would and wouldn't do the same or different. This is starting to make me feel more anxious than I already am and I don't want to hurt their feelings by telling them to butt out as I do value the support they offer when I really need it. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

SandraCh Something is missing
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Despite having reach a point in life that many dream of ( no need to work for money, freedom to do whatever I choose ) Ive struggling to truly enjoy life and choose how to spend my days.I struggle to experience happiness and relax and embrace my new ... View more

Despite having reach a point in life that many dream of ( no need to work for money, freedom to do whatever I choose ) Ive struggling to truly enjoy life and choose how to spend my days.I struggle to experience happiness and relax and embrace my new reality. Im not sure if its some kind of depression or something else.Any insights on how to deal with this?

white knight When all is lost....what can you do? Be radical?
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I look back on my disruptive life and wonder ow I survived. I joined the RAAF at 17 lasted till I was 20. By then I'd owned 20 cars on impulsive buying and the debts that went with them. Then a taxi driver, assembly line worker, cleaner, spare parts ... View more

I look back on my disruptive life and wonder ow I survived. I joined the RAAF at 17 lasted till I was 20. By then I'd owned 20 cars on impulsive buying and the debts that went with them. Then a taxi driver, assembly line worker, cleaner, spare parts sales, prison officer and by 30yo I'd had about 50 jobs and 15 professions. I had no idea I wasnt well. Bipolar type 2, dysthymia anxiety and depression and I'm near certain ADHD had a lot of presence as well. All of this came to a head in 1996 with a plan for suicide. But I survived it- I turned it around...how? A week later my wife and I separated. I fell into depression while living in a 3 metre caravan but survived....when I purchased a block of land and built my own house. And so the unsuspected routine kept going. Frankly I think two things saved me....a change of direction/interest and consideration for others in my life. So lets put suicide aside. You are depression or anxious, up and down mood or family and friends have abandoned you. Whatever your crisis you are in despair, at the end of your tether and you dont have an answer. Through default and luck I found the answers to my crisis each and every time it came about. What about you? What can YOU do to slip out of your situation and predicament? To do a u-turn with your life and save it.? Let's look at what is at your disposal. Environment- I knew a guy once, a railway worker that was heavily depressed. He lived alone. One day he didnt turn up for work. A fortnight later he rang me and told me he had taken a job as a jackaroo in Queensland. A year later he rang me to tell me how happy he was. Just one example. Friends and family- if they are causing you grief then take action. We are talking about your health here. In some cases - survival. Take time out or expel them from your life or somewhere in between. Work- chase another job. Social media- cut out the people you have never met. I'm saying whatever it takes to allow your mind to be cared for, to rid it of negative forces and situations. I'm not saying it's easy, it isnt. There is a lot of fear out there among people to be radical but I'm suggesting that when there is no other option, that all reasonable options have been exhausted....its time to rethink the basics of your life. The alternative isnt an option, when remaining in your current situation is not healthy. Perhaps others have more suggestions to avoid falling into the hollow well of hopelessness.

amd1953 Passing the baton
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It is always nice to be valued and/or appreciated for who and what you are in this life. There is nothing more rewarding than to be supported and encouraged to do well in something that you are passionate about. From time to time, we need those littl... View more

It is always nice to be valued and/or appreciated for who and what you are in this life. There is nothing more rewarding than to be supported and encouraged to do well in something that you are passionate about. From time to time, we need those little morale boosters to maintain the momentum. I should say, some of us need that while others have their own natural inclination to usually if not always do well in whatever they do. These people are usually the leading lights in the arts and other human endeavours that require talent and skill to achieve the best performance possible. Classical actors, for example, have an aura about them that attracts people to them, and they are admired for being the best in their particular field. Shining lights that show the way for those following who might one day share the same accolades. We can't all be national treasures or experts at what we do or try to do but we do need the support from others who want to see us go as far as we can. Living a good life depends on how our parents and immediate families value us to pass on their wisdom so that we might become the best we can. Being a parent is one of the most demanding tasks, but it is also one of the most rewarding if your advice and support is heeded and then acted upon and one day you are able to witness the fruits of your labour when the life that you helped to create finds the success that you wish to them.

amd1953 Self Confidence is the Key
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The benefit of hindsight is a wondrous thing. It allows you to evaluate your life based on the passage of time and the gaining of experience. I will most probably regret writing what I am about to but I'm going to do it anyway. I would guess that any... View more

The benefit of hindsight is a wondrous thing. It allows you to evaluate your life based on the passage of time and the gaining of experience. I will most probably regret writing what I am about to but I'm going to do it anyway. I would guess that anyone who is raised in a caring and loving family atmosphere might reap the benefits of developing a strong and confident personality. I was never lucky enough to be able to be in that position. My parents divorced when I was 10 years old and just when I needed a strong father figure in my life, there was no one there. My grandfather did the best he could, but he passed away in the mid-sixties so the void in my life was established. I was left to learn a lot on my own without the strong guidance of a male figure. I have always maintained that this is what has ruined me in terms of developing anything akin to self-confidence and self-worth. Yes, I did the best I could, but the path could have been more brightly lit. Everything I learned was achieved the hardest way possible. One might think that this would have had some positive influence, but it was quite the reverse. I always felt different from everyone else and not in a good way. If I thought that it was something that would vanish when I reached adulthood, I was in for a shock. As a matter of fact, it all got a lot worse. I was like a ship without a rudder. Being blown around by any wind that caught my sail. I'm not even sure that there is a right way or a wrong way of growing up, but it is something that took me a lot longer than perhaps most people. I have upset a lot of people along the way by not being or being less than what they wanted or expected from me. If you think that you are always going to be doing the wrong thing all the time, then you get used to being a loser. Well, it did for me. A lot of life's mysteries remained that way until I was middle-aged. However, I now find myself wishing that I had never experienced many of the things I was desperate to learn. When I was a child, people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up. Well, I couldn't tell them that I never wanted to grow up. I was very happy just being a big kid. In the long run, that is what sank my boat and I acknowledge now that it was my own fault for lagging behind the herd. But what do you do when you don't want to be a herd member? You have to carry on regardless. You just have to do it.amd1953

Yellow-Thorn78 I feel powerless and I don't trust anything or anyone anymore
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I'm not happy with how the world operates. I understand that given my current position as a supermarket worker who does nothing else but stay inside in his room doesn't make me the most reliable source but I'm here, nonetheless, scared. With that wor... View more

I'm not happy with how the world operates. I understand that given my current position as a supermarket worker who does nothing else but stay inside in his room doesn't make me the most reliable source but I'm here, nonetheless, scared. With that work, and the concurrent controversies this unnamed business faces, it made me think about some sort of bigger picture stuff that makes me feel unsettled. It came from a YouTube video I watched about how societies and effectively democracies form and work in this day and age. Given, it was within the context of a video game discussion about the destruction of mankind, but it commentates on the idea that open markets cannot solve all problems, particularly those associated with inequality, climate change and wellbeing. As these issues continue to rise, there should be a greater acknowledgement that open markets cannot be the sole fundamental system a democracy abides by to assess the progress and freedom of people. Yet, and this is what I'm uncomfortable with, it doesn't look like anything will change for the better in my lifetime or my children lifetime. I'm Australian and learning that certain major political groups no longer exist to engage in deeper discussion or may have never existed for that purpose but to simply put some money in their pockets and some mates seems terrifying. Some even enter without proper credentials, which scares me. It also undermines certain environmental activities like deforestation and gas plantations being open with barely any acknowledgement. The endangerment of koalas was only recently picked up by the news after 2-3 years of their classification being announced because another party was in power, and they wanted to make them look bad. Interntaional relations also worry me. Being pointed gun-ho towards another nation as if to declare war is terrifying. In returning to that video, it acknowledges that choices and actions should be made transparently with input from all people, rather than weakening it to representatives. I understand focusing and appreciating the "smaller things" is an important health strategy. However, work makes me feel miserable seeing the excess of packaged food that could be going elsewhere. Freedom, as free markets denote, does not feel as free anymore. They want me to exist in the past, present and future and all while little acknowledgement to wider world around me? I'm guessing I am responsible but things I'm better off knowing aren't making me happier.