Socially awkward

[bfic12]

Does anyone know of a dating website or app specifically for socially awkward people?  I feel like there would be so many people out there that would benefit from this.  I feel like i cant be the only person thinking this, there must be other socially awkward people out there wanting to connect with someone.  How do i find these people?  

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I cant answer that question, however, most of us here are awkward socially due to our mental health issues. It's why this forum exists.

Across society is the same- the best way to find people to be social with is finding like minded people. With Facebook for example you can utilise that platform in a fluid manner. Friends can be allowed into your life and you can control if they are suitable to remain in your life. If they have no empathy are selfish or low on tolerance for example I move them on, not interested.

I detect some self awareness in your post, that your awkwardness you are well aware of. This is a good thing but it is also restrictive if you are looking for other awkward people to miss with. In a group of 20 people you are likely to find 2-3 that are awkward, 2 that feel worse and so on, that doesnt mean they can be a member of that group but- it does mean they might have to endure the wrath of nasty human beings that bully others because they aren't "normal like them".  This becomes intolerable but again the best way to tackle this is to move on and find friends that are full of empathy and understanding.

Having said that I'm a semi recluse. I find the less people I'm in touch with physically, the happier I am because I dont put foot in mouth as often as there is less of them, less risk. So by all means you can pull back a little from full on groups to smaller numbers- quality rather than quantity.

TonyWK

[sbella02]

Bfic12,

Hey there, thank you so much for reaching out to us. Welcome to the forums!

The only resources that I can really think of are places like Reddit and Discord where you can find groups of likeminded online friends who share similar experiences. There might be a few apps out there for mobile devices that I've personally never tried, but they could be good for making friends. It can sometimes be hard to keep up online relationships due to the somewhat impersonal nature of speaking with somebody you've never met, as they can feel a bit computer-generated and unreal. That's been my experience though, I know many people who have very fulfilling and beautiful online friendships.

Facebook is a great place to start, as there tend to be local groups you can join for people in your area, or people with similar interests. There's one I'm currently in for my city where people will often post looking for friends around the same age, area, or who have things in common. You can also find groups, clubs, and events through Facebook that may allow you to meet people, depending on your willingness to put yourself in situations where you likely won't know anybody personally.

I hope this helps, please feel free to keep chatting with us if you'd like, we're here to support you.

Take care, SB