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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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quirkywords Can you change being indecisive.?
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I am indecisive. I could not even decide what this topic would be about. I find making life time decisions or small decisions hard so end up making poor choices because I worry about what to decide.Poor decision making skills has effected my relation... View more

I am indecisive. I could not even decide what this topic would be about. I find making life time decisions or small decisions hard so end up making poor choices because I worry about what to decide.Poor decision making skills has effected my relationships with partners , family and work. I would like people to share if the would like tohow they make decisions how they overcame being indecisive how they cope with being indecisive

zailleh Adherence / Compliance -- How do you make yourself do the things that make you feel better?
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Hi Everyone, One of my biggest challenges with depression is doing the things I know make me feel better and make a positive difference to my emotional state. Especially when I'm feeling my worst, these things would make me feel better but I can't ma... View more

Hi Everyone, One of my biggest challenges with depression is doing the things I know make me feel better and make a positive difference to my emotional state. Especially when I'm feeling my worst, these things would make me feel better but I can't make myself do them because depression just kills all motivation. Just hoping to draw on the collective experience here. What kind of things do you to help make yourself do the things that make you feel better? Cheers, Zailleh

blondguy Mindfulness: What Is It? (Even if you dont know please post so we can help grow the forums accordingly)
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Hi Everybody This is only the basic dictionary definition... "Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance without judging them good or bad. Instead of le... View more

Hi Everybody This is only the basic dictionary definition... "Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you're mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment without judgement" Please be as blunt you wish....If you dont have an idea about mindfulness it would be great if you could let us know If mindfulness hasnt worked/or is too broad a concept for you it would great if you can let us know your thoughts too If mindfulness has helped you, please help others to help themselves by posting how you have embraced this mindset It goes without saying that the forums are a judgement free zone and I really hope that everyone can jump in and have their say Your input is highly valued no matter how you respond to this topic. There are no experts here...New Posters are Most Welcome!! My Kindest Thoughts Paul

Built2Bbetter Drug relapse and loneliness
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Hi there, im just wànted to get something out as I'm annoyed at myself, I have been an addict for around 20 years, 10 of those a heavy user. I stopped using 3 & 1/2 years ago and within the last 3 months I have started using again I'm so annoyed and ... View more

Hi there, im just wànted to get something out as I'm annoyed at myself, I have been an addict for around 20 years, 10 of those a heavy user. I stopped using 3 & 1/2 years ago and within the last 3 months I have started using again I'm so annoyed and disappointed at myself. I have held down a steady job for 2 years, had both my kids in my full time care for 2 years got money in the bank but I have no one, no friends and no relationship, I don't even know how I'm so insecure and antisocial I thought if I did all the right things it would work out for me but instead I've realised it isn't going to be ok, I'm going to be alone and sought comfort with drugs.... I'm really worried my kids will start to notice my behaviour, I have booked myself in for weekly counselling sessions and reduced my work week from 5 to 3 days just to try take the pressure off myself..... Is there no end to this,I don't want this and any nice woman wouldn't want this in there life either... I have a couple of years until my kids should be all moved out of home I'm trying to just hold on for another couple of years but I'm failing.... All I want is someone nice to hug me, kiss me and lay down and fall asleep bedside me so I know that I'm not so alone, I'm scared to let my kids down if I don't sort myself out soon I will do so much damage and will have failed them, I feel so sad. I dont need people to tell me it will be ok I just want some advise on how to deal with this, I have no hobbies or interests other than drugs, Ive spent 3 years laying on my bed watching Netflix every spare moment because I don't have no idea what else to do... Is anyone else like this? Thanks for listening

naustical11 Reaching out for help with intensified post covid depression .
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I already had problems with anxiety and depression but ever since covid it has gotten so much worse . I was not worried about the virus , it’s not an anxiety I had problems with previously , but ever since having the virus it has intensified the symp... View more

I already had problems with anxiety and depression but ever since covid it has gotten so much worse . I was not worried about the virus , it’s not an anxiety I had problems with previously , but ever since having the virus it has intensified the symptoms I already had . I can’t eat , drink , or sleep . I’m surviving on icy poles and haven’t eaten a solid meal in months . my gp has done “all the investigations “ and all they can say every time I go in sick is “you’ve picked up another gastro virus” . blood tests show minor problems but nothing to justify the intensity of this . I e lost weight and am now underweight I miss food and can’t stomach a single thing . psychologists are unavailable in my area , I tried telehealth appointments but they were useless . I’m on medication for anxiety and depression . Any advice ?

Sandym0 Extrapyramidal Side effects and tradive dyskinesia
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Hi there, how are you all? I have a question that does other people on antisicotics have a extrapyramidal side effects too. Or have tardive dyskinesia, and how do you diffentiate between two. On top of that if someone has a hearing voices, PTSD, OCD ... View more

Hi there, how are you all? I have a question that does other people on antisicotics have a extrapyramidal side effects too. Or have tardive dyskinesia, and how do you diffentiate between two. On top of that if someone has a hearing voices, PTSD, OCD Trauma and doing a program for opioid addiction too. How do you deal with it.

Jane363 Best word to describe today
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Warmth the sunlight is warm on my back; people here are very warm, accepting and welcoming - far more so than many of my own friends and family - thank you so much, it has helped more than you will realise and has helped lead me to... and finally, my... View more

Warmth the sunlight is warm on my back; people here are very warm, accepting and welcoming - far more so than many of my own friends and family - thank you so much, it has helped more than you will realise and has helped lead me to... and finally, my self-attitude is warm and forgiving which is a huge change from the self hatred I have been pushing onto myself so much recently.

monkey_magic JUICING for mental health
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Hi all I've recently bought a juicer and have been making fruit/veg juices and have noticed it making a difference to my mental health. I'm clearer, more energized and I just know I'm giving my body many health benefits by drinking pure extracted fru... View more

Hi all I've recently bought a juicer and have been making fruit/veg juices and have noticed it making a difference to my mental health. I'm clearer, more energized and I just know I'm giving my body many health benefits by drinking pure extracted fruits and vegetables. I thought I'd start this thread for us juicers or wannabe juicers to share juicing recipes. It's become my new "thing". 🥬🥦

-FromtheGong- Navigating the D & inability to make decisions
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I’m a 53 year old man with younger kids (& adult kids) who has been battling depression for 30 years, or so.I am mostly well for decent periods, with medications & lifestyle choices helping. Unfortunately, I have been in a pretty deep & long episode ... View more

I’m a 53 year old man with younger kids (& adult kids) who has been battling depression for 30 years, or so.I am mostly well for decent periods, with medications & lifestyle choices helping. Unfortunately, I have been in a pretty deep & long episode of depression for 10 months. Initially I battled on, but eventually needed to take some time off work to recover. I took 6 weeks off, then changed jobs about 7 months ago.During my time off I ate healthy, exercised often, spent quality time with my family & began to feel a lift in mood. Unfortunately it didn’t last & I have been grinding away at life for the past few months. My job is unfulfilling with too much time to ruminate which doesn’t help my mood. ‘Or’ is my mood making the job unfulfilling? I know that taking time off again will help. To do all the things that helped last time, particularly having time to work on my physical health, which positively affects my mental health. Money, or lack thereof would be an issue needing to tighten our belts with the drop in income. I also feel that working part time & being the main carer for the kids would be helpful. Sounds like I have a plan yeah? Problem is I can’t make a decision in my current head space. Balancing what will work & what I want to do with what I feel is expected of me, or what men in my situation should do is paralysing. I’ve been agonising for the past few weeks but can’t make a decision. Has anyone experienced this? Made a decision or not? How did it go? Any responses would be appreciated.

Eagle Ray If you are a quiet person, how do you manage?
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I have always been on the quiet and shy side. I know a lot of this has to do with complex trauma from the circumstances I grew up in. As I am currently working towards re-entering the workforce I'm trying to build my confidence. There is a job I woul... View more

I have always been on the quiet and shy side. I know a lot of this has to do with complex trauma from the circumstances I grew up in. As I am currently working towards re-entering the workforce I'm trying to build my confidence. There is a job I would love to apply for but it really requires a lot of extraversion, so although it greatly appeals to me in theory, in reality it would probably be very awkward for me trying to perform in that role. I'm interested how others with quiet natures navigate the world? What strategies help you, especially given that much of the world we live in is about promoting yourself and pushing yourself forward? I'm not competitive by nature and always enjoy being co-operative and caring over thinking competitively. I once heard someone describe himself as a social introvert. I could really relate to that because I love people yet I am basically shy and I need a fair bit of time on my own just to process and manage life. I find a lot of contact with others overstimulating, and yet I need and greatly value social contact as well. I am getting increasingly better at nurturing my inner child and that is really helping. However, I sometimes still feel very small and vulnerable in the world. While I am getting better at speaking up for myself and being assertive, I can still lose my voice at times and basically psychically curl up in a protective ball (safety mechanism learned in childhood). Do others feel this way? Can you identify things that have helped you?