Cut the rope that binds you

[Luke_4_you]

I thought about my life & when I was young, I often focussed on the trials of life. I didn’t understand that so often a fear or doubt was “tied”, like an invisible rope, back to hurts or “bad times” of the past. This “rope” would control my life. Conscious efforts to overcome it would not work. A few years ago I realised that what controlled me were lies or deceptions that drew my focus to the “ropes”, and that the “ropes” could be cut.
I was able to understand that the hurts, lies, mis-use, manipulation, etc. throughout life often resulted in resentments against the people responsible. Often, old hurts, etc. were hidden and I no longer consciously thought about them.
Quite a few years ago I was given a Christian brochure. "Forgiveness is the power that heals!" ... very simply, if you put your trust in God to accept your forgiveness of those who have wronged you, He will help you with many other benefits. A few days later I opened the brochure and home alone, I decided, "I will give this a go!" I took a large pad and pen and looked up and said, "God, I think I have forgiven everyone, but please reveal to me the names of anyone I need to forgive!"

Almost immediately "Your grandparents", came into my thoughts. My reply was, "What do I have to forgive them for, they died before I was born?" Immediately I "heard", "Because you were cranky at them dying, because you didn't have grandparents like other children!" ... I thought, "Correct!" and started the list.
Over the next hour or so I listed about 30 names (including myself a few times) ... I was amazed how I could recall the names and the circumstances. I then "pictured (as best as I could recall)" each person coming to me. I advised them that I forgave them and told them of the incident(s) that caused me to be hurt. I then directed them to Jesus, Who was sitting on a seat nearby, “He will forgive you as well.”
It took over 2 hours to go through the list. The result, from that day, not a headache, a cold nor a twinge from a previous crippling backache, nor any other illness.
I gave it “a go” and I received amazing results. The brochure I read is available off the internet. Simply key in "Forgiveness the power that
heals".(it was created by Dick Innes, an Australian now living in California). I believed it was going to work and I received! All those ropes/ties holding me back were cut . I didn’t look back, I just keep giving thanks and forgiving anyone else that does me wrong.

[Luke_4_you]

Hi CMF, Yes, sometimes hurt people say, "I will never forgive that person, they hurt me so much!" but, while you resist forgiveness of them it is you who keeps hurting. As mentioned, forgiveness works like a pair of scissors & cuts the rope tying you to the old hurt & the person who hurt you .... simply make the list, as you quietly ask for help, then one by one forgive ... even picture seeing the rope being cut & disappearing.

With new hurts, the sooner the "rope" is cut, the sooner you are free... resentment only causes you hurt.

[Luke_4_you]

Hi Geoff, No offense taken. Please read the replies I have submitted to the others who have responded to my post.

As I see it, holding onto resentment about "hurts" (actual or perceived) of the past is like suffering hurt your heel every time you take a step. You keep putting up with it & living a miserable life. Then one day after taking your shoe off you looked in a saw a small pebble ..... the realisation suddenly comes, "Ah, that was the cause of the pain all these years!" You take the pebble & throw it away. Immediately, "No more pain!"

Geoff, I remember as a boy about 15 when my mother almost died from a strangulated hernia & was operated on & took months to fully recover. She was a "strong believer ... but in a quiet way, often alone in her room", She also walked about 1.5km up mostly hills to go to a "mainline" church most weeks. BUT, when she couldn't attend church during her recovery time, not one person from the church contacted her. When she returned to the church, some said, "Oh we haven't seen you for a couple of weeks!" I told my mother, "If that is Christianity, I don't want it!" I was guilty of judging all, because of the non-actions of a few. Yes, may "church attenders" have not found out about the power of belief .... but likely because my mother deeply loved me, she kept on "interceding" for me (never said "You must go to church") & over 30 years later I, when I was crippled with back pain, called out "Help me!" (the doctors were contemplating an operation that would either cure me or cripple me) ... & within 3 days, yes 3 days, I was provided with "information" that rid me of backache ... reflecting back, I could almost hear "words" ..."Ah!, I finally have your attention." ... a year later I again followed directions given to me & did "my forgiveness thing".

Every person has free choice. After many years, in desperation, I made my choice & gained so much benefit.

I still go through "trials", but now I focus on the Solution ... not the trial!

[Luke_4_you]

Thank you Starwolf.

Yes, we all are travelling our separate paths & as I have contributed in replies to others so far, it takes "trials", often over many years, before we reach a point where "a light turns on" & we realise what the solution is ... in the vast majority of people it is "forgiveness" ... letting go of the things that have (often unconsciously) caused us hurt.

Oh how I would like to see more & more realise the power of forgiveness ... letting go of hurts, resentments ... cutting the rope that has controlled us (again, often unconsciously) .... THEN, share that with others, friends, strangers, family (especially young children & teenagers) .... the result, millions of people being set free ... good heath, happy, productive, friendly, etc., etc. As mentioned previously, please tell your doctors, so, hopefully, they can realise that 60-100% of sickness is a consequence of holding onto resentments & un-forgiveness (as I read way back in 1991 & decided to "give it a go!")

What happens when “The Good News” is kept being told?

Say 5 tells 5 others plus the original 5 = 30 now know

then those 30 tell 5 others, & so on, if everyone keeps telling 5 more, within 10 days, or 10 weeks, or 10 months or 10 years the people who now know equals over 302 million ... Yes that is 302 million & so the
multiplication goes on .... when people forgive others, think of how happy the world will be plus how healthy they will all be .... but of course each person has a choice ... to tell or not to tell!

I want to see all people free of hurts & sickness ... so I tell many people each week. Come join me!
... & today, because there are so many sick people, it is easy to get their attention! ...... & when they get well, they too start telling others!

[Luke_4_you]

As I have shared in the other replies, un-forgiveness is hurting you so the sooner it is genuinely given, you have cut off, or separated you from the hurt. As mentioned, "Hurting people hurt people", so hopefully the person who hurt or wronged you may see you happy & healthy & ask, "How come you are so happy & healthy?" So tell them that you forgave them & then explain the benefits of forgiveness ... hopefully, if they choose to adopt what you do, that "previous enemy" of your can become a friend who joins in helping others.

[White_Rose]

Luke

I see in your reply to Geoff that you said you had replied to everyone who replied to you. Have you realised your replies are not on this thread? If they have been held up by the moderators you should have received an email about it.

Take care of yourself.

Mary

[Luke_4_you]

Hi Mary,

As I mentioned, I replied to each post that I read. To date there are no e mails from the moderators .. but I notice that the reply to Geoff is shown above.

I know from my own experience plus by talking to many others that forgiveness does cut the harmful ties that "links" us to the hurts/wrongs in our past ... whether actual or perceived by us (example - my grandparents not being alive for me to benefit from ... like I heard other children did) .... I, as a very young child, "missed out" & I took it as a "wrong" .... by forgiving them for dying, it was not blaming them but enabling me to "cut off" the "wrong" that I perceived I suffered.

If there was an actual "hurt" - say someone cheated you of money, the same "freeing" is obtained when any discontent or anger is "cut off" by forgiveness (or letting it go) ... there is no benefit to be gained by continuing to feel anger or resentment about the loss or the person's dishonesty ... my peace of mind & good health are worth much more me.

[Luke_4_you]

Hi Ken 1,

I did reply to you but it appears to be held up in the system .. hopefully it will appear soon.

[Luke_4_you]

Hi Jess F

I did reply to you but it appears to be held up in the system .. hopefully it will appear soon.

[Doolhof]

Hi Luke,

I see that some of your replies have not made it through for one reason or another. A little while back, I thought I had sent replies, but it seems I pushed the wrong buttons or something as nothing showed up on the screen.

Yes, the moderators would let you know if there was some content they did not accept due to the forum rules. For me it was my error. Hopefully you will not be distracted from chatting here due to the "missing" posts". It happens to me as well.

The idea of forgiveness or letting go can be very powerful and certainly does help to release us from the hurt and bitterness we can sometimes feel towards other people or ourselves.

I'm sure there are times when people don't even realise how much they have hurt us.

A man at Church says well meaning words to people when they are hurting. I know he cares deeply, sometimes his words are just not appropriate, but he is trying at least and means no harm to anyone. It would be very easy to take offence to some of what he says though.

I tell myself he means well and he is not purposely being awful or dismissive of the issues I have.

Sometimes it can be a matter of perspective.

Hopefully those posts will show up, if not then I will be looking forward to hearing from you and reading more of your insights.

Cheers from Mrs. D.

[Luke_4_you]

Hi
Ken1, For many years I have chosen to forgive anyone that has wronged me or attempted to encourage me to adopt ways that are contrary to my values.

If circumstances present themselves, and I see them suffering due to un-forgiveness and resentment, I offer guidance on how they too can forgive.

Hangingon to un-forgiveness only hurts us as the person who has wronged us is usually gone out of our life.

As mentioned, forgiveness "cuts the cord" that is tying us to the person that hurt us ... therefore we are free.

There are times we have to also forgive ourselves for something that may have hurt someone ... again, this frees us. Maybe an opportunity will arise when we are able to say to that person, "I am sorry!"

Almost every day I meet people that are evidencing the effects of holding on to un-forgiveness.

Two days ago I met an 86 year old woman and offered up a seat I was on and helped her to sit. I shared a bit about "my story". Her immediate reply was, "I have cancer in my spine!” I suggested to her, simply ask for help when making your list ... then forgive each one. I found that once I decided to forgive, making the list was quite easy.

Her reply, as she thanked me was, "The list will be very long!" I nodded, and thought, "Yes, so many have
long lists and a lot of sickness and suffering!"