Compliments received for 2016

[StaticRose51]

Hi,

It's true we all have our good and bad days. I was wondering what everyone else does with the compliments they receive, do you just brush it off as feedback or do you get creative. Projects like a Happiness Jars are a great boost in our busy lives! Any extra ideas would be appreciated Thank you 🙂

~Stacy

[blondguy]

Hello Stacy

What a great topic 🙂 I was lucky enough to read Dale Carnegie when I was a kid and read that when someone gives you a compliment you dont brush it off or say no...It is a sign of common courtesy and respect to the person that has given you the compliment to say 'Thankyou' or 'Thanks' and smile 🙂

I take a compliment as a gift of kindness and embrace it as I should.

I have a healthy ego not one that I need a semi trailer to carry....

Good on you Stacy.....A person with a reasonable amount of self esteem will say 'Thankyou'

Kind Thoughts

Paul

[StaticRose51]

Hello Paul

Thank you for visiting my first topic which such kind words, considering I wrote it with a tired mind 🙂 I had to check my library to see if I've read any Dale Carnegie books, shall keep him in mind the next time I come across the self improvement genre.

As you correctly stated it should be returned with a thank you and a smile. If we do indeed possess a certain amount of self esteem. I agree we should at least make the effort to be respectful, it's not seen as being weak at all. I do not think you have a problem with your ego 🙂 Thanks again for your reply this evening.

Regards

~Stacy

[150lashes]

This is a great topic!

I agree with Paul - it's actually quite healthy to accept the compliment and give thanks! Good for your self esteem and for theirs!

🙂

[blondguy]

Hey Stacy

Appreciate you posting back....The name of the book is dated but the contents are a gift...

Dale Carnegie. 'How to win friends and influence people'. First published 1947...just guessing not googling 🙂

I wasnt born yet of course lol....I found the book in my dad's bookshelf....lol. One of the best self help books I have ever read.

Your thread/topic is a good one....

Paul

[StaticRose51]

Paul

The best books are dated 🙂

I wasn't even born in 1947 either... Tomorrow I shall see if my Aunt has a copy which no doubt she will.

Shall be back later. S

[blondguy]

No worries Stacy

That book is still being published....I forgot to mention that tiny but crucial point 🙂 Also available on the internet too...

Anyhoo....The more thought and input the merrier

Paul

[StaticRose51]

Got a copy now so I look forward to reading.

What I clumsily tried to mention at the beginning of this thread was the creative idea of a Happiness Jar.

There are many different kinds of them anyone can make, what's important is what goes inside them. My therapist suggested a different take on it for the start of the year. She said when I get a compliment I was to write it down on some nice paper each time and keep it inside the jar.

I was to keep doing this exercise until the end of the year. Then on the last day of the month I was to open the jar and read all the notes. Of course you can improve of this by adding anything achieved over the year also. Ps. The jars don't have to fancy, you can use any old mason jar or a smaller jam jar 🙂

Hope this inspired someone to be creative 🙂 It's not a new idea just an oldie but a goodie.

Thank you for all the replies and reads.

~Stacy

[150lashes]

What if you don't get many compliments at all and the jar is virtually empty come the end of the year?

[Just Sara]

Hi all; thought I'd join the discussion.

Complements work both ways. Ergo...thankyou all for your great contributions!

Answering the previous post by 150lashes; there's nothing wrong with complementing yourself. It may seem odd at first, but it works if you let it.

I complement strangers in the street by commenting on their pretty clothes or the scent of their perfume. It always gets a smile, and sometimes a nice chat.

It's difficult for me to accept complements from others if they're big and meaningful. Small one's are easier.

Cheers Dizzy x