Christmas

[14041938]

This is my first post.

The only part of Christmas I did like is buy gifts for everyone, now I only buy for my Grandchildren. No desire to drag the decorations out, I live alone & will not have any contact with my family for the 3rd year. It gets lonely but I prefer to be alone.  No expectations or pressure this way. 

[smallwolf]

Hello and welcome to the forums. And thank you for sharing a part of your story.

Can I ask if you get to chat with your family?

My mum is alone now and there are other people I have chatted with recently are in a similar position at least in regard to loneliness. And mum buys for the grandchildren as well. This is becuase we have made an agreement in this respect. How about you?

So I'm in a little unsure about your last statement about "no pressure or expectations". I wonder if this is resignation? Or acceptance or comfort?

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear 14041938,

A warm and caring welcome to the forums…

Christmas is a very lonely time for so many people, me included, I’ve spent many Christmas Days alone and will do again this year….I only get to see my grandchildren when I do the 7-8 hour drive to see them….unfortunately it’s only about once a year but as I’m aging now, and physically unwell it’s a very hard drive for me to do…so i probably won’t see them again for a long time….

I donated my decorations years ago and don’t have any now….I am okay spending the day on my own, but still loneliness creeps in….usually I watch Christmas Movies on YouTube, play some Christmas music…I try hard to keep my mind busy….

I’ll more likely be dropping into the forums Christmas Day, if you feel lonely then I’ll be here to chat to you about anything you feel up to talking about…

My kindest thoughts, with a warm caring hug🤗..(if that’s okay)..

Grandy..