What would a transsexual do if rejected sex change

Tiffany_h · ‎05-02-2017

Hello all, my name is Jason and I am a 41 year old transsexual. My concern is that I will be denied gender reassignment due to a past history of major depression and two stays in the psyche ward for post trumatic stress after being gang bashed and struck by a car when I tried to flee ten years ago. I drank and did drugs to exess before being admitted for suicidal ideation, depression and refusing to eat. My time in hospital helped me break my habits and reflect on my negative attitudes. This was three years ago and now I am totally clean and clear minded. I don't even take meds anymore because my habits were what was making me depressed. Anyway I believe I will be rejected for a sex change because of my checkered psychological history. I tried to get an appointment with a gender dysphoria psychiatrist but he hasn't got back to me about an appointment probably because my doctors referral mentions my psycological past. I really don't know what to do, I am rather desperate. Even if I do get to see him I think I will not be accepted in the end.

MarkJT · ‎05-02-2017

Tiffany H, welcome to the forums and well done for posting. You are now a part of a very caring and supportive community.

I am sorry to hear of what happened to you. That is just plain horrible. So happy for you that you are now in control of matters, your question aside.

I am sorry that i do not know much about the surgery you are having but I did find it surprising that you think you could be knocked back because of your psych history. Looking at your story, I would have though if anyone was in a good place to have this done, it would be you with you having conquered your demons that you were hospitalised for.

Not having any knowledge of it but I would think that it would be a hugely mentally taxing time when you discover that you were born in the wrong type of body, so once you come to terms with that, shouldn't that set you up to have the operation?

If you are having trouble getting that appointment, is there another gender dysphoria psychiatrist that you can book in with? Is there any reason why you have to see that one?

I just want to add that I think it is absolutely brilliant that you have posted as there will be other people who are in your same position that will read your post and will get the courage up to post. It is then that we can support through the mental health journey.

Being a straight white male, I know nothing of what you are going through so this is all education to me. I may not be able to answer some questions but having PTSD, depression and anxiety, I will be able to answer others to support you.

Cheers

Mark.

Tiffany_h · ‎06-02-2017

Thanks for you're kind words Mark, I know it would be hard for most people to understand my situation. I am stressing a little bit at the thought of being denied a sex change but I've contacted several other online chat lines about my thoughts on the matter and they both said what you said. That I'm probably worrying about nothing especially if my history of depression was caused by things that happened to me. I'm going to call this psychiatrist during the week to see what's happening. It seems that I conquered my depression by realising it was caused by my negative attitude back then concerning what happened and that trying to lighten up and think positive actually did help. I've read many of the posts on this forum and relate to their life stories. I want to tell them all that trying to be positive is the key to starting to become better and eventually happy. I really do know what it feels like to be at rock bottom and that when you're there there is no where else to go but up. Anyway thanks for taking the time to respond to my post Mark, you're helped to make me a bit less anxious about thought of being denied gender reassignment.