Hi javixo, welcome to the forums. I'm in my 40's too, and came out last year. Yes I know what you mean, you can feel lonely at times. I was married for 20years and have 2 kids, so now, living on my own can get lonely.
However I have some great friends - 2 gay friends that I knew before I came out, and i'm fortunate that they have been there. These 2 gay guys are married (to each other!) so sometimes I feel that I'm imposing on them, as a third wheel, even though they say I'm not.
I think, for me, that having people in my life for so long has made it hard to come home to an empty place. I've joined a number of groups - I was told to look up Team Melbourne - and found a number of sporting groups and have joined the walking / running group. I don't catch up with any of them outside of the Saturday walk, I've found it hard to bond enough with any of them to see anyone outside of the walk. I'm not even looking at meeting "someone" - it would be just nice to be invited out.
It can be hard if you are a bit shy (like me) to have the confidence to invite anyone out. I think that a fair bit of patience is required though, I think I feel or at least portray, that I'm desperate - and that would probably be a turn off.
I was recommended a social app called Meetup, it's not LGBT specific but has a few specific groups, and I've met a few people there. I haven't been to enough of them to see people regularly, but I see that often it is the same people that go to the regular events, so that is positive.
I don't want to be single forever either, but at the moment i'm in no rush. I only moved out last November, so at the moment it is ME time, just that I'd like a few more regular friends and outings, other than my current friends.
