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Sexuality - Unsure what to do

lew
Community Member

Abit about my situation - I've been sexually attracted to men in the past, however I'm also sexually attracted to women's bodies. There has been time when I've had alot of sexual tension to men who ignite my intellectual and physical desire, however I like women too but haven't fully accepted that part of me yet and haven't come to terms with it fully.

 

The problem is that I met a man who is very sweet and kind hearted, he has done so much for me and eventually fell in love with me, however I didn't have the same feelings for him and the attraction just wasn't there (no intellectual or physical attraction). I told him that I was bi-sexual and he knows that I like women, however he wanted to take things further and I freaked out, so we decided to end things.

 

I feel so bad in letting him down and upsetting him though as he really cared about me - what do I do?

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Scared
Community Member

Send him a message saying that you are open to being friends when or if he ever wants to.   But be careful that you dont lead him on to believing that maybe it could be more than just friendship.

And understand he may be hurting so be understanding.  Gaining new friends in life is important and beneficial to both parties.