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Sexuality & religion

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I am a bisexual Muslim. Still haven’t come out to my family but all my friends know. I have a girlfriend, we’ve been together for a year and a half. I absolutely love and adore her and I see a future with her. I myself am not religious compared to my family they are like hella and obv I’m scared to tell them in the near future. Does anyone have any suggestions they can help me out with how I could have this conversation. I love my religion but also there are things that I disagree with such as obv not being able to be in same sex relationship. I’m always confused about that because if it feels right then why did god make me this way why is he letting me have deep feelings for my girlfriend. Can you anyone please help me out I’m always in stress about this and I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my family or my girlfriend either.

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Croix
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Dear New Member

I'd like to give you a warm welcome here to the Support Forum. You sound both a loving and conscientious person and it is a pleasure to talk with  you.

 

I guess the first thing to say is that you are an adult peron in you own right and can accept the way you are. Sexual orientation does not seem to me as being important, while honesty and kindness are truly important character traits.

 

If you have found someone to love, and they love you then you have both been given a great gift, something that should be preserved. Very many people of all orientations simply are not that lucky.

 

I am not qualified to enter into religious discussion and would not presume to do so  though I do note there does seem to be a more liberal view throughout parts of various religions and it may be a question of geographic location and prevailing views that make a difference. Looking on the internet there are many in the LGBTQIA+ community who have difficulties with religious tenets and do not accept everything their religion dictates, you are far from alone

 

I'd suggest QLIFE as a place to start, as the same conversation applies to more than Muslims.

 

It is only natural to want the love of one's parents, and I hope that their love for you is not blocked by a religious barrier. If you get the chance I'd sound each out in general terms on their attitude to gays. If they are not sympathetic then any revelation you make may end up unhappily and best left, at least for now, then again you might find an ally.

 

I guess you have to make a judgment call on their attitudes and I hope for the best for you.

 

You are welcome here anytime

 

Croix