Sexual or sexuality triggers

[Paul]

Do you have any sexual or sexuality triggers that send you into a depression or give you anxiety?

Paul

[Gruffudd]

Well... I know it is unreasonable, but when straight people get too friendly with each other I start feeling rather anxious. 

[SwansFan]

This is probably misinterpreting the question, but similar to the above I get anxious whenever I'm around my straight friends who are all effectively paired up and in love. And my sexuality always feels like the elephant in the room. 

[BKYTH]

Sexuality in general is something I have no understanding of. Intimacy, of any kind, seems brutal and savage to me. Touch is dangerous and has cruel eyes - When the uninvited hand has left its stain then only the poetry of romance remains.                                                                                                                                                                          "Shall I compare thee to a summers day! Thou art more lovely and more temperate.                                                      Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May and summers lease has all to short a span. Sometimes too hot the eye of heaven shines and often is its gold complexion dimmed. But thy eternal summer shall not fade nor lose possession of that fair thou ownest......................................"                                                                                     And so it goes. Melancholic in its appeal and lustful in its proclamation.                                                                                                                            

[Paul]

What do you mean by unreasonable Rob?

Paul

[Paul]

Hugs

[Gruffudd]

Hi there Paul,

I feel unreasonable in that I know I have a double standard, I don't mind if it is two boys or two girls, but if I see a girl and boy I feel uncomfortable. It triggers my memory of all that nonsense from school.

Rob.

[Paul]

Ahhhh I'm with you now.

[justinok]

SwansFan said:This is probably misinterpreting the question, but similar to the above I get anxious whenever I'm around my straight friends who are all effectively paired up and in love.  

I feel like this around gay couples! Being made to feel inferior for being single is a bit of a trigger for me. It took me a while to accept that being on my own was ok, but some days that belief is pretty fragile. 

[Gruffudd]

Some days and some places it is fairly fragile the whole single thing - certainly a trigger at times for me as well. It is complicated by that I'm not sure that I really want to be in a relationship.  I find I also struggle with the obsession many have about children, dad tells me that my existence has no purpose if I don't have children and whilst I know it is rubbish it still upsets. Then there was a clothes brand at Kmart or Target that used the heterosexual symbol as a logo - I had to shop somewhere else.