Lonely and gay need friends

[Lovepugs]

Hello.
my name is Steve and I new to this.
I’m 45 and live in southeast suburb of Melbourne. My partner decided to leave after 19 years together. I have a lot of back pain and have had deep depression and anxiety which started about 4/5 years ago. Although I’m so much better then where is was, I felt useless after my love of my life decided that he couldn’t deal with it any longer and left me after 19 years. I’m not into Grindr or any of these hook up apps and finding it hard to find new people and make new friends. It time for me to move forward and look at making new friends and hopefully find someone to spend my life with. So for now I’m hoping to find new gay guys to make some new friends. In regards to a relationship, it’s something that I would love to be in but my problem now it that I’m not very sexually active currently. I’m not sure why and I must be the only person that doesn’t need sex to make me happy. And being gay everyone seems to want sex. I’m not saying that I don’t have sex but I just don’t need it all the time. So rather that give you my life story I would be happy to talk to someone who may want to get to know me more. So at the moment I’m hoping to make some new friends.
Thank you for reading.

[smallwolf]

Hi Lovepugs,

welcome to beyond blue.

Being with someone for that length of time and they no longer being part of your life would have some impact on you - there would be a loss in your life. I am sorry this has happened to you, it must be an awful feeling.

I am married with two teens and the youngest is in her last year at high school. I am a few years older than you but still less than 50. I have depression, anxiety and other things.I find it hard to get excited any many things in life. Yet the one thing I can do is listen to you and respond.

what sort of things would you like to talk about?

Tim

[Only_I_know]

Hi there lovepugs!

I'm in my late 40's, but I only came out after 20 years of marriage and 2 kids - about 15mths ago. I too was looking to make new gay friends, not for a relationship, but just to get out and be myself after never allowing myself to be who I am.

I was told about an app - called MEETUP. It is NOT a dating app. It is an app that connects people with similar interests. There are many gay groups on their though - and they are not about quick hook-ups like scruff and Grindr. I've joined a few of these and will occasionally go to some of the events - like walking, social drinks, dinners, movie nights and more. I'd suggest having a look at this, as mentioned, it isn't a dating app. It really is a great way to meet new people.

goodluck! Daz