I’m bigender and bisexual and scared how others will react

[Skippyb1]

I’m 14 and everyone knows I’m bisexual but they don’t know I’m bigender and I’m scared to tell them especially my family because of how they’ll react I want to be able to be myself. I’m scared to be myself because of high school there’s a lot of pressure in that environment and people there aren’t great. Lately I’ve been experiencing anxiety and I’m scared to talk to people and not being able to be myself is a part of that. I’ve experienced a few panic attacks because of this. I want to be able to tell people who I am but I’m really terrified. If you think you have ways to help with this please share.

[Petal22]

Hi Skippyb1,

Wellcome to our forums!

Im sorry you are feeling this way and experiencing anxiety I understand anxiety can be hard to deal with.

I understand that you don’t want to tell people your bigenda yet and that’s ok but is there someone in your family that you trust and can be open with?

I understand that anxiety can be really hard to deal with maybe you could discuss how you are feeling with a trusted family member……..

You can learn to manage your anxiety through a psychologist……… first you need to do a mental health plan with your gp….

Let me know your thoughts, your not alone amd thank you for reaching out to us.

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hi there

it is uncomfortable to feel as though you can’t be yourself. I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling that way. School can definitely be a challenging environment, too, you’re very right there. I wonder if there are any local or even online LGBTQIA groups you could join, to chat with and get support from others? I’m sure Qlife could support you to make connections if you felt that might be helpful.

kind thoughts, Katy

[geoff]

Hello Skippyb1, people know that you're bisexual and in any relationship, there always seems to be one person who takes the lead, so if you are feeling bigender let this develop over time, they don't necessarily need to know straight away, it will naturally form and as Katy has given you a couple of places to get help.

You can also contact Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 by phone, web chat or online, they help people aged between 5 to 25 years of age.

Let's hear how you get on.

Geoff.

[Skippyb1]

I’m worried if I see a gp or psychologist my family will find out about my anxiety and I don’t want to worry them. I have 2 friends that I’ve told and they’re fine with me being bigender cause they’re both lgbtq so I’ve been talking to them about this.

[Petal22]

I understand Skippyb1 but sometimes with anxiety we need a little bit of help to manage it.

If you find it to be distressing please consider talking to someone close to you in your family, I understand that you don’t want to worry them but I’m sure they would want to know if something was worrying you.

You don’t have to tell them about being bygender if you don’t want to.

Im happy that you have friends that you can talk to.

You can always chat to us here on the forums anytime if you feel you want to.