feeling like I can’t express myself

[june_03]

Hello :),

I have been wanting to cut my hair pretty short for a while ( i am a girl btw) and i think it would make me really happy but every time I ask my mum to make a booking she tells me that “i should grow it out” or “it will look like a boy haircut” and basically just discourages me completely. She always says that our long hair looks so nice and we shouldn’t cut it. I know this isn’t a huge deal compared to many issues on here but I feel like my self expression is being suppressed. She let my brother get whatever hair cut he wanted but she just seems to hate the idea of my hair being short. I am a teenager btw so I can’t really book/go to get it done myself. I am probably overthinking it but if she doesn’t want me to have short hair then I am worried about how she would react to finding out I like girls?

anyway this was just a little rant my mum is great most of the time it’s just really frustrating. anyone had a similar experience/ does it get better when you’re and adult?

- june

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hello there 🙂

I like girls too, and guys 🙂 It does get easier when you’re an adult, in that you get to make your own decisions and you have more “space” to be who you want without people in your face judging you on it. If that makes sense.

I wonder if there’s a communication barrier here? Like, is your mum actually saying no about your hair? Or does she just not want you to cut it because she likes it. And is there a way to express that it’s important to you? Maybe some convos need a different tone so everyone knows when it’s something important?

Do you have a style in mind?

Katy

[geoff]

Hello June, people's hairstyles change all the time, probably just like your brothers does, so mention any celebrity who has short hair and say how good it looks.

You can buy hair-cutting devices at shops and ask a girlfriend to help you do it, your hair will always grow back if that's what you decide on doing.

Your mum may be scared of what it may indicate, but you have your own life to live and can't live like what other people want you to be, being under that pressure can cause problems.

If for some reason it's messed up then you will have to go to a haidresser.

Geoff.

[june_03]

hey Katy

thankyou for your reply. I think I am going to try talking to her about it again. I will get some photos and explain why I want to do it. Your advice was very helpful

I am really want to get a layered, shaggy sort of cut with bangs at the front

thanks again- june