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Finding myself + acceptance
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I have known for quite a few months now that im not quite "straight" and only recently have I found a label that I feel comfortable with.
I am coming to terms with being a Heteromantic bisexual yet I feel somewhat invalid as I am not romantically attracted to females, making me not completely bisexual. I still only feel comfortable dating a man but would be open to sexual relations with a woman, making me feel like I may not be accepted in the LGBTQ+ community.
On top of that, I am scared to come out to people because I have friends who use the word "gay" in a negative way and have said things that make me terrified that they wont be accepting of me.
Can someone please help me?
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Hi MacaroniNoodles,
Is it important for you that people at school know your sexuality? Is there a support group you could have access to that is separate from these "friends" who would be more accepting of this part of you? That could be an online LGBTQ+ community or in person depending on where you feel comfortable. And if one of these communities is not accepting then to move into another until you do find a place that has positive support.
I'm trying to compare to my own experience, so please let me know if this isn't the same for you... My comparison is that I like kink in my sexual life but the only people who know this are the people I'm dating and the kink communities I'm a part of, I don't feel the need to let the world at large know this aspect of my life. Because it sounds like this would only be part of your sex life is it information that everyone needs to know?
All the best xo
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I think Miss Benthos has written a really helpful reply.
My take on your post is that, for a start, i would be very cautious about coming out amongst a group of people who you already know to use words like "gay" in a disparaging manner, and may judge you were you to share your thoughts around this.
Why share such a personal and precious aspect of yourself with people who show disrespect and judgement to start with?
Your dignity is worth more than that.
I understand the wish to show your authentic self, be who you are, and let your light shine.
But i think there is plenty of time to do so, outside the constrictive walls of school.
You also mentioned that you are concerened that people within the LGBTQI+ community will not accept you, like Miss Benthos i can only go by my own experience here, but the LGBTQI+ community is just made up of everyday people who identify in their unique ways. If you come across those who don't accept you for who you are, walk away and find others who do. There are so many beautiful, open, accepting people in the world, straight, queer, whatever ... you ain't got time for narrowminded people!
Please feel free to come and talk some more about this or anything else any time.
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