Describe your ideal life partner.

[Paul]

Your description can be of your current love if you have one or who you would love to bump into accidentally (on purpose). You may like to describe only physical attributes, only mental attributes or only emotional attributes. Perhaps the whole lot. 

Your ideal life partner might be yourself or a pet!

How does/would you like a life partner affect your depression/anxiety?

Paul xx

[Zeal]

Great idea for a conversation lats! No one has thought of this before for this forum! Well, that I know of!

My boyfriend of 7 months is actually my ideal life partner. He is kind, loyal, honest, smart, rational, understanding, patient, sweet, modest, caring, trustworthy, moral, considerate, empathetic, a great listener, positive... and I could go on more, but I'll leave it there haha.

I quite honestly wouldn't want him to change anything about himself 🙂

My OCD is much better around him. Because my fears revolve around germs, kissing is actually good for that. When he had a bad head cold, I wasn't at all worried about getting sick from him. If anyone else was sick with a bad cold or flu, I wouldn't want to get that close to them, and my OCD would kick in!

I'm interested to hear what other people say about their ideal partner, or their real-life partner!

[Gruffudd]

There is a big question. 

I am tempted to say no-one. 

There are a few things though, I don't want perfect rather a man who is comfortable with who they are at least when with me, someone who can trust that they matter and that there is no problem that can't be worked out together, and for them to stick around. Sex is not a big thing with me for a few reasons, it would be perfect have someone who didn't mind. 

One just like that was there once, I didn't realise that he liked me  (or believe that he could), he ended up moving to Argentina. He is the one that got away. 

I don't care too much what a man looks like at first because in my experience there is always plenty that I find attractive. In that sense it is the opposite of where I started, any man will do as long as he wants to be there. 

[Gruffudd]

I didn't answer how all that would effect my depression. Well, on one level that remains my problem. I don't think it would resolve because I am in a relationship, just that the perfect man can accomodate and support where necessary, and hopefully I can do the same for him. 

[SwansFan]

Yeah I'm tempted to say no-one also. Only because I'm attracted to so few people.

I reckon my ideal partner would be like a best mate, who I occasionally hooked up with. A real casual arrangement. Someone I can hang out with for a bit and then not feel compelled to see for a while after that. Haha I'm so romantic, right?? 

 It's not like it wouldn't be special to me, it just wouldn't outwardly appear like a very loving relationship...

[Reaperbird]

My ideal partner would be someone who is also my best and closest friend. Someone who I feel comfortable around and can be myself.

Other things that would be important to me is they'd have to like animals, allow me my space but enjoy affectionate moments too, preferably have some insight on mental illness, and probably be an introvert like myself (or at least be happy going to social events without me, I hate crowds >_<)

I admit I prefer a romantic-based relationship over a sexual one. So they'd probably have to be okay with that too.

How would they affect my depression/anxiety? Hm, well when things are bad, I'd like someone to just sit quietly with me and maybe talk about random stuff, not necessarily bad stuff, but good stuff too.
I'd hope they would be okay with me not going everywhere with them, and not try to talk me in to doing something that is making me uncomfortable. Allow me to say no, without getting aggressive about it.
Maybe give a little reassurance too, I'm very unconfident and paranoid that people secretly hate me, so little things to remind me I'm loved would be really sweet. Not gifts (unless they wanted to,) just taking care of me when I'm sick, or telling me when they appreciate something. That sort of thing.

But I don't think they could fix my mental illness, in fact no one can but me (with work and time). But I'd be happy if they accepted me the way I am, and helped me find creative ways to overcome obstacles when they happen. To be patient with me, caring, insightful and a good listener. To support me in getting better, but to be also accepting that I may never get better.
I'd hope we could work things out together and compromise when we can. That we can find a comfortable area where we can both cope and feel cared for.

[soulsolaris]

My ideal partner would be someone that is deep and passiomate like i am. I dont want someone who is the same as me at all.. but i do want someone who hs the same or similar ideals as me. I want someone who will support me in all my endevours and encourage me but also get excited when i am excited about something. I want someone who is kind and caring not just to me but to other people. I will not be with someone who treats other people badly. Someone who puts time and effort into me in every way to show me i am loved and cared for just like i would with them. Someone who is abit of a dreamer and likes art and poetry, music and watching the stars (not absolutely necessary but would work well with my personality) and someone who is willing to put effort into maintaining the relationship. Someone who will communicate with me instead of just fighting with me because they can because in the end id rather talk things out.

[leeyum96]

My ideal partner.

He would be warm, caring and kind. He would never be scared to display affection whether in private or in public. He would be strong, a good listener, deeply passionate about what they believe in. I want him to be imaginative and creative with their thoughts, not scared to stand strong behind them. Someone who on a cold winters night is more than happy to just cuddle under a blanket on the couch watching a movie. Someone spontaneous, who in the summer would take me on surprise road trips to secluded beaches where we could play around in the surf under the sun. He would be my soulmate, a perfect match yet two different people. Someone who can lay out watching the stars dreaming of what life could have been. We would argue, we would fight sometimes cry but he would be someone who at the end of the day would never sacrifice our relationship for anything. He would be a good communicator but also sometimes vague in order to create surprise leaving life entertaining. He would be happy to go on romantic picnics in the country or by the water. He would also understand that occasionally  sometimes we need alone time. We would complement each other perfectly.

[Fairywings]

The other half to my soul in which if we were ever torn apart we would just find our way back to eachother.  My soulmate. My hubby is my soulmate. 

[Lost_Girl]

My husband is my ideal partner,

He is my best friend.  He likes to talk to me about books we both read, about life, hopes and plans. He likes to play games and watch movies with me when the kids are tucked up in bed. We explore thed world together. He is a great father abd he tells bad Dad jokes. He grows with me and learns with me.

He is flawed like all good people and he is humble and he is sometimes a pain in the..... 

But most of all he is there for me. He met me when my Dad was dying of cancer and he supported me and wasn't scared away.

9 years later and after we were married he supported me again. This was when I moved interstate without him to care for my Mum who was diagnosed with lung cancer and given 3 months to live.  18 months later she passed and during that time he visited every 6 to 8 weeks (by plane) and I fell pregnant and had the baby 1 month after she passed.  

He cared for me when I had a broken coccyx during the birth of our second child.

He cared for me when I fractured my shoulder/humerus in 3 places. He cares for me now 2 years after that accident with the chronic pain from my neck/back issues and the major depression and anxiety I have just been diagnosed with.  He learns as much as he can and he gives as much as he can.

He is sad at the moment, he says because he is used to me being his rock. When all along he has always been mine.