Confusing feelings for a flirty friend

[Bluejay23]

I live in an all-boys dorm, and honestly, everyone here pretty much knows about my sexuality. There’s this guy who I met through our mutual friends. At first, he weirded me out because he was really touchy, and I thought he might be messing with me. But as time passed, I saw him more often and started developing feelings for him.

The thing is, he has a reputation as the biggest flirt/player on campus. He talks to a lot of girls but is also very physically affectionate with our guy friends—and even with me. Once, he cuddled me in bed.

A few nights ago, I was out walking alone at 1:30 AM to clear my head when he spotted me while driving back from McDonald’s. He literally U-turned to check on me, asking where I was going and if I was okay. I told him I was fine and kept walking, but he stopped the car twice more to ask. A few minutes after driving off, he texted me, “Are you okay? I love you.”

Since then, he’s been extra affectionate—hugging me and repeatedly saying “I love you.” Yesterday, I finally told him, “Stop saying that! Because you don’t.” He replied, “I do though. I care about you. Why don’t you believe me?”

Now, I’m trying not to fall for his charms, but I don’t even know if resisting is the right thing to do.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome 

I feel there is one thing missing in your questioning of his Quasi advances but you might see opportunities in the near future to ask it... "What is it in me that you love"?

I'd expect he'll explain and during the following conversations you can expand on some concerns like "you seem to have a flirting reputation, is that risky for me or is it just a happy joking type if thing"?. 

Sometimes the flirty ones are the most lonely so how they act among others is a front. 

I think your strategy now should be to get to know him much more than what you do. Try to arrange a meet up, even the early hours in the morning or to McDonald's. 

I wish you luck. True love is hard to find but he could turn out so much different to what he displays.

TonyWK 

[smallwolf]

Hello and welcome.

It sounds like you're in a really confusing situation, and I can get why you're feeling this way. On one hand, his actions seem to show care and affection, but on the other, his reputation and flirty nature make it hard to tell if he's serious? Well ... that is how ot sounds to me from your post. 

Along similar lines to what TonyWK said ... I wonder how you would feel with having an honest conversation with him—ask what he really means by all this and what he wants.  Now, I certainly don't know anything about this other person (or you really) and what sort of love is he talking about? Is it a brotherly love? Or protective? Or more than that? You deserve to know where you stand. 

Listening if you want to talk some more.