Bisexual coming out?

[tallemochild]

im so confused. i know im bisexual & i want to come out but i just dont know how. i know kids at school will think its weird & tease me about it, and i dont want to straight (haha) up say it to my parents. very confuse! what do?

erin

[Croix]

Dear Erin~

Welcome here to the forum, which is a friendly place with all sorts of people who have had all sorts of experiences.

Coming out is not compulsory, and there is nothing to stop you leaving matters as they are until you find someone you want to have an attachment with. Then if they are of the same sex as yourself others will realise at least part of your bisexuality, the nice thing being you will have an ally if there is any unpleasantness or teasing.

With parents, sometimes they are dumb, other times they can be pretty perceptive. Do you have any reason to think the might not know and take the news badly? I would imagine there may be a chance they realise anyway, but are leaving things until you feel comfortable talking about who you are.

Croix

[geoff]

Hi Erin, thanks for posting your comment.

It's not unusual for kids at a co-school to bring home either a girlfriend or a boyfriend so don't feel under pressure to tell those close to you, do it in your own time, the worry you have at the moment is that you feel as though you have to tell those close to you, there's no rush, let it develop on its own.

I went to an all boys school and brought friends home, there were never any questions.

If you start to think about pleasing others you will lose sight of what is really important, your happiness and please don't feel forced to identify as anything, let time choice when.

Geoff.

[Birdy77]

Hello Erin,

I think it's great you've come here.

Croix and Geoff are spot-on: there is no rule or rush to come-out.

I understand your feeling of wanting to sort of identify yourself and say Hey, This Is Me!

But I would be wary of doing this while you're still at school, unless you know that you have allies and support, because it can be really, really tough and isolating.

There's a huge, huge world out there after school, and there's loads of time to put yourself our there without the ridicule of your classmates.

I didn't do any official "coming out" , I just started a relationship with another girl (after I'd finished high school) and it sort of just became known that I was a lesbian after that.

Take your time, and enjoy this time of your life.

You are welcome here anytime.

🌻birdy

[eec21]

Hi Erin,

I have been through this, I know how hard it is to come out as BI, I found asking people if they can stand gay or lesbian people helpful, if they said yes then you can trust them with your secret😊 I hope you find this helpful 🙂

Emma