I am so upset with my husband
I have two small children and ive never truly felt supported. The most recent issue relates to how he treats me....he has sworn at me on multiple occasions, today he called me a miserable pos. Infront of my small children. I simply said we were going to be late if we dont hurry up and tidy up bbreakfast.I am constantly baffled about how he speaks to me and wonder what happened to him to believe is okay to do that. When he speaks to me like this I often walk away and cry because I don't want to get upset in front of the children. I so am embarrassed about his he speaks to me. I've told him many times that I dont like it and it upsets me and its not okay and how would he feel if someone spoke to our daughter that way. And it falls on deaf ears. He tells me I've been in a bad mood for months ever since he last told me to eff off. Naturally ive not really wanted to engage in much conversation because of the way hes spoken to me. And hes basicaly told me its my fault that he speaks to me that way. He simply has no compassion and no empathy and not once has he ever apologised.
...ever. I am always in a rush to get the kids to school, to do chores etc so at times I probably am short and sharp because we are in a rush, and I am frustrated that I have to do everything myself,while he dilly dallys around, plays on his.phone, while im clearly stressed managing everything, he has no sense of urgency and no initiative when if comes to household tasks. I am a stay at home mum so I know this is my responsibility but i have to clean up after the children and him and it feels like he us the 3rd child. Tonight I confronted him after he had a go at me for not closing the windows when I had lit the house fire, he called me ignorant, and hes sick of telling me to close windows (by the way I always shut the kids room up to keep the cold out) but our room gets warm so.i like the window open, anyway its incorrect in his book but I don't think it warrants him swearing at me, being disrespectful. Anyway ive gone to bed upset and he sends me a reel of how a woman makes a man feel so exhausted by not using a warm tone and kindness.....and I am truly mortified 1. Because he chooses to communicate that way wheb he won't have an adult conversation and 2. Because that is utter crap, you've just called me a pos and told.me to eff off and im clearly upset and hes annoyed at me because im not using a warm kind tone...... oh my goodness. I am just mortified. Im deeply embarrassed that he treats me this way.
