Dear Guest_95505599~
I'd like to give you a warm welcome here to the forum, and can appreciate it is an embarrassing and difficult problem to talk about. It can be very worrying thing for you to loose the ability to be intimate as it is often a significant part of a relationship and I'd imagine you might also be apprehensive about the physical cause too. Still there might be some hope as you are seeking medical aid..
Of course the does not help you at the moment, though I am somewhat surprised your husband is not as understanding as he might be. Intimacy is not a right, it is a gift. Really nobody should be obliged to be intimate, and especially where pain is involved it seems only sensible not to continue.
I wonder why your husband feels as he does, is he insensitive, or perhaps does he need the reassurance of intimacy to know you still care?
May I ask if you have discussed this with him, emphasizing the pain involved and then asking him if there is any other method of intimacy he could suggest, even if embarrass to mention it
If he insists can I suggest you make it very obvious at the time you are in great pain, rather than suffering in silence, and then say this is not on.
It may be your husband simply has to accept that things have to change, at least for a while.
Croix
