Unstable Housemate/Hostile Living Situation

[QuietAlice]

Hi Forums, I am currently having issues with a person that I'm living with and I'm seeking advice/support around it.

I live in a sharehouse with 4 total people, 1 of whom is currently actively hostile to the rest of us 3. Any attempt to engage in discussion leads to her shouting/yelling and spouting abusive words and phrases. One such example she compared us all to "pigs living in their own s**t" and calling our property "rat infested". We keep a clean household, wipe up stains, put dishes in the dishwasher type stuff, we've never had a rat problem or had any amount of mess that has warranted that kind of statement. In this same rant, she accused one of our other housemates as being "the reason why their last place was a s**thole" and lashed out at another housemate who intervened in the conversation/rant as an attempt to diffuse it before it turned physical. She then ended the argument by dredging up personal trauma that i had divulged to her in confidence. Since then, I have asked her to leave. She is not on a lease, as she was supposed to sign it over 3 months ago (we have a very patient real estate) so I have asked her to provide us with a timeframe and a decision as to whether or not she is moving out. She has failed to respond to these messages, and I'm at a loss as to what I can do next. Her constant hurls of abuse at all of us are really wearing our mental spaces out and causing/forcing us to live in our respective rooms. Any advice on what to do next would be greatly appreciated

I am keeping records of all interactions and exhanges between us, as to provide evidence to whoever that we're following the right processes.

[white knight]

H, welcome

An unpleasant situation indeed.

This is more of a legal matter than involving mental health as such however I have a few suggestions.

Start off with a long, reasonable timeframe for her to move out. Type it all down with fellow housemates and your signature. Start with "you must move out within 14 days."

Hand over a copy of the request to your local police department and explain the circumstances. Make them aware that you expect verbal confrontation and possibly physical altercations and that you 3 have tried to prevent that for some time.

When 14 days arrives if she hasnt moved out then return to the police station and request a AVO order. The police will fill you in on how to carry that out. In essence, if granted, she must not come within a certain distance from you. This means that her belongings can be packed up and placed in a safe place for her collection or a friend of hers can collect them. Often an order can be for up to 12 months by then she would have calmed down and moved on.

That is roughly how t works. Be sure that your housemates will support such action that appears drastic but necessary.

I hope you are ok

TonyWK