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BeyondBlue Hey there - read this to see what this section is all about
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Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a ... View more

Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a negative way. As always, we want to hear your story and how it impacts you and encourage everyone to support each other with kindness. There are a few things to consider when posting in this section so we can all get the most out of it: Everyone’s situation is unique. We all do our best to share what is important in our story but we can never share it all. Let’s be mindful we can’t know all of everyone’s story. Anonymous but public. These posts are available to everyone and while the moderation team keeps the Forums anonymous, posts are still online for everyone to read. Have a think about what you want to share to get the best support for you. Please stay safe. This space is an amazing way to seek support from others who might understand what you are going through. We want to hear how you are going and what is happening for you. Please also consider 1800RESPECT if you don’t feel safe or 000 if you are in danger right now. You deserve to be safe. Thank you again for joining this conversation, your contributions are worthy and important to us here. Beyond Blue

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UrbanSoul15 She didn’t want to see me again after she didn’t orgasm
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A bit of background, I have been single for 3 years now after a 3 year relationship with my ex-girlfriend that was up and down, hot and cold. She ended it in a text message. I consider her the only woman I’ve loved, although it appears despite her re... View more

A bit of background, I have been single for 3 years now after a 3 year relationship with my ex-girlfriend that was up and down, hot and cold. She ended it in a text message. I consider her the only woman I’ve loved, although it appears despite her regularly saying she ‘loved me’ etc, she was apparently using me. its been an incredibly hard road trying to come to terms with it. In the two years that followed, I dated quite a bit but didn’t find a relationship. I had some good sexual relationships but eventually lost interest and for the last year mostly kept to myself. I’ve recently moved to another major city and went to a dating event. I met a very attractive 28 year old girl who is more than 10 years younger than me. During conversation, she said she didn’t want a relationship but would consider casual. I met her for drinks tonight and things went well, the conversation was good although she made comment about my age and little things that she said was her ‘putting shit on me’. We went back to my place and was intimate, she wanted the room to be completely dark which I thought was odd, as she’s very attractive, but no problem. During intimacy, she asked ‘what I liked’. She wanted to try some different intimacy things in the bedroom. It wasn’t really my kind of thing, and I think I started to feel a bit uncomfortable, but continued. She basically started making comments that made me feel bad about her not being satisfied and said the guy she’d been with a week ago had made her satisfied. I said sometimes it takes more than one encounter and asked if we could see each other again, she said I don’t know but maybe. But obviously to me, that’s a no. I feel from my experiences over the last few years and my ex girlfriend, that many women just want to sleep around etc. I dont know how to feel, but I feel very depressed and empty. My ex girlfriend also felt like real love, but in final conversations with her, she said she’d only miss the intimacy with me. Are there any real people out there? Or is it just about sex and sexual gratification. It’s hard to know what there is to look forward to in life, when true love/romance etc was always so important to me, but it seems it was a widespread myth, and that it hard for me to live with.

Anonymous-11 Struggling to support partner with mental health deterioration
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My partner has faced significant grief, and loss over the past two years. We have been together five years, but he has suffered with anxiety and depression for 20 years+.It feels like a constant battle with his mental health, choices and behaviour. H... View more

My partner has faced significant grief, and loss over the past two years. We have been together five years, but he has suffered with anxiety and depression for 20 years+.It feels like a constant battle with his mental health, choices and behaviour. His mood swings from happy and future planning, to cutting me off and isolating within short periods of time. Some days I can see how hard he tries to overcome his symptoms, and other days he says he sees no future for himself.We live in separate houses, with distance between us, and I see that things become worse when we have no physical contact. He has been isolating himself more significantly, over the last six months. I’m an empathetic person, and I try my hardest to support him through everything he has been handling these past two years, but I’m struggling to keep going when I don’t know if I’ll have to walk on eggshells or wake up to someone that wants to be present on a daily basis. He has reluctantly started counselling which I hope will help him. I’m just so unsure how to continue supporting and loving him when I feel like I keep being cast aside from his life.Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Guest_69224151 I don’t like my dad
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My dad is extremely abusive, manipulative, and narcissistic. We left in 2020 and that made him realise that what he is doing in wrong. Now he tries to guilt trip us and but my brother and I back with money and presents. Although I appreciate the mone... View more

My dad is extremely abusive, manipulative, and narcissistic. We left in 2020 and that made him realise that what he is doing in wrong. Now he tries to guilt trip us and but my brother and I back with money and presents. Although I appreciate the money, it’s too little too late. He only started to care about us once we left and I find that really confusing. I’m a teenager so most of the kids around me, and even some adults, struggle to understand my situation and how to help. I feel like I have no one to relate to because of how specific and uncommon my situation is. I started writing a list the other day of everything I can remember him doing to me and it is LONG. He is quite old and has a lot of money so I assume he has a young girl friend and potentially a new family. This is really hurtful because I don’t understand why he couldn’t just be a normal dad. Part of me is grateful for this experience bc I have learnt so much but on the other hand it’s like “why did it happen to me”. He traumatised me from such a young age and hasn’t stopped since. I look at my friends family situations and I get so jealous. One said they were mad at their dad for grounding them and I wanted to yell at her and give her a reality check of how bad dads can get. Anywho idk if I can keep going!

MeccaAddict I don’t enjoy life
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I don’t know how else to say this, but more often than not, I hate my life intensely. I am in my mid thirties, with two kids aged 8 & 4 who are very loved. I have been with my husband for 12 years. He’s a good man, we live in a lovely house and great... View more

I don’t know how else to say this, but more often than not, I hate my life intensely. I am in my mid thirties, with two kids aged 8 & 4 who are very loved. I have been with my husband for 12 years. He’s a good man, we live in a lovely house and great suburb. On paper, life is perfect. My youngest is a very sweet child, however they have a developmental delay and require speech and occupational therapy. They are improving but still seem like a 2 year old, with tantrums, comprehension, unable to converse at the age they should and while I know it could be far worse, I am so exhausted & miss being able to do normal things in public (such as grocery shopping or taking them to dinner) without complete meltdowns & them running away. They look so normal so I feel people judge them and me without understanding. I remember thinking how hard things were at the age of two, but that is was developmentally normal, and two years later, we are still in the same boat. My oldest is also a beautiful child and excels at all they do. They have met milestones perfectly and then some. But being their safe space, I bear the brunt of any of their anger and frustration which although normal, can be a very hard role to be in. My husband is a good man, a great father but we have no relationship apart from being flatmates and co-parents, and it’s too far gone that I don’t even have any interest in trying to be romantic anymore, and he certainly makes no effort. I wish he would wake up and say he was leaving as I am not brave enough to be the one to pull the pin. I had a pretty traumatic childhood and while both of my parents are in my life, a lot of my experience has made me cold and unable to talk to people about how I am feeling, and I mask how I am doing (which is not good) and everyone would think my life is great. I don’t even know what to say or do, but i do know i think often about how much i hate how my life is turning out. I adore my children and but this wasn’t what i pictured life looking like, a loveless marriage and so many years deep in the trenches, where I feel stressed. I am lonely and so often I wish i could turn the clock back and make different choices.

RaspberryMuffin My life is hard
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Is it just me or is anyone else out there at 13 years old and u saw ur girlfriend cheat on u but u haven’t confronted her cuz shes the only one u have but u kinda wanna dump h but u still love her.? Chat if ur in the same/ similar boat. View more

Is it just me or is anyone else out there at 13 years old and u saw ur girlfriend cheat on u but u haven’t confronted her cuz shes the only one u have but u kinda wanna dump h but u still love her.? Chat if ur in the same/ similar boat.💁🏼

2675 When I'm feeling hurt and alone I just want to hide away.
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My daughter loves me very much but insists on coming to my house when I'm feeling very fragile. This happened a couple of days ago and I really lost the plot. I said some dreadful things and hurt her. I just felt cornered and wanted her to leave. Now... View more

My daughter loves me very much but insists on coming to my house when I'm feeling very fragile. This happened a couple of days ago and I really lost the plot. I said some dreadful things and hurt her. I just felt cornered and wanted her to leave. Now I'm so ashamed. She is coming with me to see my doctor today and wants to be able to tell him how dreadfully crazy and angry I was. She thinks I need help, but I just need to be alone when I'm feeling so unhinged. Help

Guest_81493431 anxiety estrangement from family
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helloI'm new to this forum ; seeking help coping with siblings over exclusion from friendship and support initiated by family estate

helloI'm new to this forum ; seeking help coping with siblings over exclusion from friendship and support initiated by family estate

mikasa5ever best friend suddenly ended our friendship of 4 years and now i'm confused on what to do
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It happened on Sunday before I started going to school. She sent me a VERY long text message on discord about how our friendship had lots of problems and how I've been becoming more distant towards her. She even confessed that she's been thinking abo... View more

It happened on Sunday before I started going to school. She sent me a VERY long text message on discord about how our friendship had lots of problems and how I've been becoming more distant towards her. She even confessed that she's been thinking about this for MONTHS, and at the end of her message, she told me not to reply or interact with her anymore... so I didn't say anything. Even though I really, REALLY wanted to tell her what I've been thinking. It's Wednesday, 8:32 AM, and I'm in class wondering what happened between us to get to this point. Perhaps it was because we're in different schools now, and I've been experiencing HS without her, or the fact that she felt excluded while I had all the fun or something. I don't know. I'm really bad at pointing out the problems with myself.And speaking of emotions, my mental health has recently started to take a deep decline ever since she moved schools. Now that we are no longer friends, I don't know what I'm living for anymore. My only reason for going to school was because I wanted to see her in University and live together, and now...?? Look, I understand how life can get better, but this time, I'm not even sure it will BE better. Especially with how the world's kind of going down in flames or something, er... IDK. I feel empty inside. My mood swings are more irregular and I just jump from feeling happy to feeling depressed and pessimistic. My best friends no longer my best friend, I'm doing terribly in maths, everything in my life feels like it's going to fall apart and I'm going to be at the root of it. Please just give me anything to help with my emotions. I'm lost.

Guest_61614070 Anger issues
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I don't know what to say and how to feel about it but sometimes I feel that I would never be able to get rid of the anger I have inside me because of my past traumatic experiences. Getting married to the love of my life and dreaming about the perfect... View more

I don't know what to say and how to feel about it but sometimes I feel that I would never be able to get rid of the anger I have inside me because of my past traumatic experiences. Getting married to the love of my life and dreaming about the perfect life and then ending up getting dictated by his mother about how to dress how to live and literally how to spend the entire day. And then the constant feeling of not being good enough for him and his family. Always ending up feeling guilty for raising your concerns or voice even for the right reason. Seems like I am still stuck at that phase. I have moved out of my country. My MIL for now isn't living with me. I live with my husband but whenever I feel even a little that I am being dictated and controlled, it makes me so angry and panic

al_ch Depressed yet somehow being a good husband
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Hello there So, this kind of started while my wife was pregnant. Couldn't sleep and lots of changes going on for both of us (new job, moving house and baby on the way). GP thought it would be a good idea to try and put me on medication so I've been o... View more

Hello there So, this kind of started while my wife was pregnant. Couldn't sleep and lots of changes going on for both of us (new job, moving house and baby on the way). GP thought it would be a good idea to try and put me on medication so I've been on that for 2 years. Fast forward 2 years and between baby having eating tantrums and wife over worrying about the smallest things, it doesn't feel like there is improvement. I think I'm a good husband. I work full time and manage to be home every night. Fridge is always full, baby has everything baby could need and want, wife is somewhat spoiled I think. She does think I should do something for myself, but I just don't have the energy or the headspace for it. I'm not a big drinker, but once or twice a week in the evening I'll sit outside under the veranda, watch TV while drinking a few scotches. Somehow I feel guilty doing that too at the start, but then of course, the alcohol takes effect. Is this everyday life for new fathers? Does it get better? She hints she wants another in a few years, but I can't go through this again!