Tough living situation

[Herefortheforums]

So I’m a single dad, I live alone in a 2 bed apartment. My building is undergoing renovations that I can’t afford so I’m actually selling the place. 
I get my little girl who is 2yrs old every second weekend and I recently have been selling off stuff which includes the bed my little girl was sleeping in when she would stay over. (I wanted to get her a brand new bed to replace it)

I don’t want to get to carried away with adding to much things to this room because I’m going to be packing up and moving soon. 

Knowing all this. My friend is separating from their partner and they are really struggling. Especially their living situation. You can tell she just needs a place to sleep and set up temporarily until they find their feet. It really seems I can help them with my second room (my girl doesn’t stay with me during the week and only every second weekend she stays over. )

There’s no sale contract in place yet and could take a month or 2 to actually process and move on. 

I don’t want to feel like a bad parent for trying to help a friend temporarily who is in desperate need of help. 
I just don’t know how to feel, I’m not sure what to do. I always want to help people. 😞

[Juliet_84]

Hi herefortheforums,

It’s admirable that you want to help your friend out when you yourself seem to be struggling at the moment. I am all for helping people when you are in a position to do so, but it doesn’t sound to me as if you would be the logical choice right now? You have to pack up and move in the near future and then you will have your friend to consider in all this and not wanting to do the wrong thing by them. Also, sometimes situations that start out well-meaning can actually turn into a bit of a nightmare situation. I would perhaps give your friend some time to sort out their issue with a more permanent situation. If they are complaining to you and you feel guilty you could always say “I would but I am moving in a few weeks”. I think you need to focus on sorting your own situation out for the next few weeks at least. Of course, that’s just my impression (as someone who tries to help everyone else before themselves) and feel free to ignore it!

[geoff]

Hello herefortheforums, it's admirable you want to help your friend, however, this doesn't solve your own circumstances and will only confuse you on what to do.

Having your friend come and live with you is only going to complicate the issue, look after yourself and your little daughter.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[white knight]

Hi welcome

I agree with the above, "charity begins at home. and good Samaritan work ethic has its downfalls, it should be measured help.

TonyWK